Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselvesSorabji, Cornelia
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Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves
Sorabji, Cornelia
India -- Social conditions; Women -- India
History tells us of one such lady, whose diary of statecraft an emperor
of India was glad to consult. Shrewd, wise, far-seeing, responsible,
the Purdah has hardly been any drawback to the women born with a
talent for ruling, though even for these exists the chief danger of
seclusion, namely, that they may get to view life through the eyes of
one person--their chief adviser.
Where he is unreliable and the woman is weak the danger will be
apparent to all.
It is the chief adviser who rules in reality, manipulating her
revenues, surrounding her with creatures bound to him by ties of
relationship or purchase; as likely as not her spiritual guide is also
of his choosing, and the lady is in a coil from which extrication is
well-nigh impossible. I have seen her struggle to get free, and fall
back again helpless; but most often she is dangerously unconscious of
the subtle influences abroad. Her day is spent grossly, lying on her
elbow among brocaded cushions, chewing betel-nut, while her maidens fan
her, or amuse her with tales of Court rivalries and jealousies. Her
Prime Minister brings her documents to sign, and she hears perhaps an
occasional account of his administration of the estate, but there is no
sense of obligation towards her people; no interest, even parochial,
in their daily life; no thought for their welfare. It is not to the
advantage of the chief adviser to encourage feelings of this kind, and
the woman herself has too little imagination to care about the wants of
subjects whom she never sees.
But all Indian widows do not rule estates. What then of the rest? What
of the ordinary widows, of the highest caste, for instance, the type
of woman who, in the olden days, would have fed the flames of the
funeral-pyre bound to a husband’s corpse? What of her.
For the most part she lives the life of a willing drudge in the house
of her mother-in-law. “For it is so alone now,” as one explained to me,
“that we can win merit for our lords.”
I have never forgotten the agony of this little lady, sent home to her
own mother to live in luxury, robbed of her chance of service.
It is not, I think, untrue to say that the orthodox Hindu widow suffers
her lot with the fierce enjoyment of martyrdom and a very fanaticism
of selflessness. But nothing can minimize the evils of that lot. After
all, a widow is a thing of ill-omen, to be cursed even by those who
love her. That she accepts the fact makes it no less of a hardship.
For some sin committed in a previous birth the Gods have deprived her
of a husband. What is left to her now but to work out his “salvation,”
by her prayers and penances to win him a better life-place in his
next genesis? So even the “cursings” of her are in their way a
satisfaction. They are helping her to pay her debt to Fate.
For the mother-in-law what also is left but the obligation to curse,
exaction of that debt? But for this luckless one her son might still be
in the land of the living.
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