Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselvesSorabji, Cornelia
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Between the twilights : $b Being studies of Indian women by one of themselves
Sorabji, Cornelia
India -- Social conditions; Women -- India
Now, how shall I make it clear that there is no determined animosity in
this attitude? The person cursing is as much an instrument of Fate as
the person cursed. Are we not all straws blown by the wind of Fate, and
of our own past actions? Little room is there in Hindu ethics for the
sense of personal responsibility for wrong-doing.
Indeed, the widow is often, especially as she gets on in years, and in
the house of her own mother, a person loved in spite of her fatal gifts
of ill-luck. She fills the place of a good home-daughter, is at the
service of everyone, from the eldest to the youngest. Often she is a
devotee, most religious, and greatly supported by the consolations of
her faith. She will herself say on some occasion of rejoicing: “Let me
not be seen, I am luckless.”
And there is certainly no denying that the sum of self-sacrifice which
she represents is, at its best, some solid good to a nation--the salt
leavening the lump. One can imagine how the practice of suttee helped
to maintain this high Hindu ideal of altruism, so comparatively easy
was it to face that one final act of pain and of glory. But in these
days, and under the petty tyranny of a mother-in-law, the altruism of
the little widow is worn threadbare.
It is all very well in theory to assert no personal animosity towards
her whom you hold it a religious privilege to curse, and to burden with
every unpleasant duty imaginable. Your practice is apt to mislead. Even
Hindu widows are but human, and a lifetime of such dissembling of love
must leave them slightly bruised at the foot of the stairs.
Again, with the laxity of modern times and the lapses from orthodoxy,
there comes to the chief sufferer the wonder whether after all she is
dealing vicariously in this spiritual rialto; whether she is buying
gifts for her husband after all. The morbid consciousness that she is a
thing of ill-omen gnaws at her. Admit the doubt and you admit inability
to bear what is put upon her; you admit discontent, consciousness of
hardship, of ill-treatment. Yet all these tyrannies, this very doubt,
has the march of time brought to the Hindu widow. There lies the
tragedy. From whatever cause, she is losing faith in her own sacrifice,
in her old attitude towards life; and therefore is she to be pitied
indeed.
How can we help the fact that the number of women in this class must
increase daily? The age marches forward towards personal and individual
dignity, and the old ideals of the vicarious are being pushed into the
background of the unregenerate.
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