American essays -- 19th century; Literature -- History and criticism
“When the will of a child is totally subdued, and it is brought to
revere and stand in awe of its parents,” then, and then only, their
rigid judge considers that some little inadvertences and follies may
be safely passed over. Nor would she permit one of them to “be chid
or beaten twice for the same fault,”--a stately assumption of justice
that speaks volumes for the iron-bound code by which they were brought
into subjection. Most children nowadays are sufficiently amazed if a
tardy vengeance overtake them once, and a second penalty for the same
offense is something we should hardly deem it necessary to proscribe.
Yet nothing is more evident than that Mrs. Wesley was neither a cruel
nor an unloving mother. It is plain that she labored hard for her
little flock, and had their welfare and happiness greatly at heart. In
after years they with one accord honored and revered her memory. Only
it is not altogether surprising that her husband, whose ministerial
functions she occasionally usurped, should have thought his wife at
times almost too able a ruler, or that her more famous son should stand
forth as the great champion of human depravity. He too, some forty
years later, promulgated a system of education as unrelaxing in its
methods as that of his own childhood. In his model school he forbade
all association with outside boys, and would receive no child unless
its parents promised not to take it away for even a single day, until
removed for good. Yet after shutting up the lads in this hot-bed of
propriety, and carefully guarding them from every breath of evil, he
ended by expelling part as incorrigible, and ruefully admitting that
the remainder were very “uncommonly wicked.”
The principle of solitary training for a child, in order to shield
it effectually from all outside influences, found other and vastly
different advocates. It is the key-note of Mr. and Miss Edgeworth’s
Practical Education, a book which must have driven over-careful and
scrupulous mothers to the verge of desperation. In it they are
solemnly counseled never to permit their children to walk or talk
with servants, never to let them have a nursery or a school-room,
never to leave them alone either with each other or with strangers,
and never to allow them to read any book of which every sentence has
not been previously examined. In the matter of books, it is indeed
almost impossible to satisfy such searching critics. Even Mrs.
Barbauld’s highly correct and righteous little volumes, which Lamb
has anathematized as the “blights and blasts of all that is human,”
are not quite harmless in their eyes. Evil lurks behind the phrase
“Charles wants his dinner,” which would seem to imply that Charles must
have whatever he desires; while to say flippantly, “The sun has gone
to bed,” is to incur the awful odium of telling a child a deliberate
untruth.
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