Bringing up the Boy: A Message to Fathers and Mothers from a Boy of Yesterday Concerning the Men of To-morrow — John Shaqi
Bringing up the Boy: A Message to Fathers and Mothers from a Boy of Yesterday Concerning the Men of To-morrowWerner, Carl Avery
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Bringing up the Boy: A Message to Fathers and Mothers from a Boy of Yesterday Concerning the Men of To-morrow
Werner, Carl Avery
Boys
When the boy arrives at the age of serious reasoning, say six or seven,
and asks me point-blank if there is really a Santa Claus, I meet the
question fairly. I simply decline to answer and give him my reason for
so doing. I explain to him that half the fun of the holiday lies in
the mystery surrounding St. Nicholas. I tell him, good-humouredly but
positively, that he must solve the Santa Claus problem himself.
By taking this position I keep square with the boy, and at the same
time he is not disillusionised, for he is as willing to cling to the
romance as I am to have him--and more so.
The custom, particularly prevalent in the large cities, of conducting
the boy through the toy department of the stores when the big holiday
stocks are on display, is to be deplored. The lavish exhibitions
paraded before his eyes cannot fail to dull his appreciation of the
home Christmas.
In arranging my boy’s Christmas I strive for simplicity. It was
Nerissa, I think, in the “Merchant of Venice,” who said: “They are as
sick who surfeit with too much, as they that starve with nothing.” The
rich--sometimes--pity the poor at Christmas.
This is well, for pity looses a purse-string occasionally, and Heaven
knows there are enough tight ones! But the fact is, that the children
of the moderately poor often get more real joy to a square inch of a
Christmas morning than many a little brother of the rich. There can be
no great pleasure in receiving when there has been no genuine longing.
Only the child who has known want can fully relish realisation.
A few modest gifts, judiciously selected, are more permanently
satisfying than a lavish display, indiscriminately gathered. I always
try to supply my boy with one thing that he most desires, or with a
fair compromise between it and what I can afford to buy. If I can
meet his anticipations fully in this one gift I do so; but it must be
something of a substantial and permanent nature. After which, if my
purse permits, I amplify this with a few things of lesser cost and more
trivial in character.
And here let me record a protest against that modern unnecessary,
the perfected toy. By the perfected toy I mean the toy that is not
a plaything, but an ingenious contrivance so perfected mechanically
that it leaves nothing for the child to do. I protest against the toy
that leaves absolutely nothing to either the fancy or the ingenuity
of the boy. The imaginative faculty of a child is constantly reaching
out for something upon which it may feed and develop. This propensity
is stifled by the perfected toy. The railroad outfit that goes into
complete operation at the turn of a lever; the doll that walks and
talks and has an elaborate trousseau; the soldier equipments that fit a
boy out in military style from head to toe--these and all like them are
praiseworthy examples of the commercial instinct of the toymakers; but
they do not meet the requirements of the child.
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