Bringing up the Boy: A Message to Fathers and Mothers from a Boy of Yesterday Concerning the Men of To-morrowWerner, Carl Avery
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Bringing up the Boy: A Message to Fathers and Mothers from a Boy of Yesterday Concerning the Men of To-morrow
Werner, Carl Avery
Boys
The little boy was myself, and the incident is the first Christmas that
I can recall. I recount it because it seems to illustrate the natural
coalescence of the mythical idea with the historical idea of the great
world holiday.
Too often, I think, the real significance of our holidays is lost
in the merriment of celebrating them. Every child is entitled to a
thorough explanation and a lasting impression of the incident which
Christmas commemorates. In shaping the Christmas idea in the boy’s mind
we should begin at the beginning. If the story of the Star of Bethlehem
is told in the right way and at the right time, it may be depended upon
to survive the myths and the merry-making with which the atmosphere is
charged during the festal period.
And this need not militate against the development of the Santa Claus
side of the celebration, for the one amplifies the other. Unselfish
giving is the keynote to both, and the child-mind easily comprehends
the application of the modern custom to the ancient story.
In the bringing up of my boy I have been a stickler for truth. Absolute
confidence between father and son, mother and child, has been my
plea and my practice, always. Yet, while not going out of my way to
encourage the Santa Claus myth, I have most cheerfully tolerated it.
It is the one mystery of childhood that I do not explain, and my reason
for excepting it from the calendar of candour is that the end justifies
the means.
I would not rob the boy of a fiction that has not one harmful
possibility, and that brings so much gladness into the home, and into
his heart. I would not deny him a kind of pleasure that added so much
to the joy of my own childhood. But, and paramount to every other
consideration, the great unassailable justification of the Santa Claus
myth is the remarkable lesson it teaches.
With reasonable reservations for the unusual I may say that never,
after the Santa Claus age, does a man or a woman either practise or
experience that remarkable unselfishness of the parents who conceal
their bounteousness behind a fiction. After childhood we continue to
give and take. We give to our brothers and sisters, to our parents and
to all whom we love. It is our pleasure to add to their happiness; but
it is also our pleasure to feel that they know it is we who have so
contributed to their enjoyment.
Not so in Santa Claus land. There, and there only, is found the
absolute submergence of self, the sincerely impersonal benefaction. As
a child, coming down to the dazzling Christmas tree, I said: “How good
is Santa Claus!” But in after years when I began to realise that every
one of those trees of joy had come from my good father, who had tramped
out into the woods to cut them and had hauled them over the hills for
miles, sometimes through a blinding blizzard,--then I said: “How great
is a parent’s love!”
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