Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
Pure Ishmaelite as he seems, however, a child has what we call the
social instincts, and inconsistently enough no doubt he shows at times
that after all he wants to join himself to those whom at other times he
treats as foes. If he has his outbursts of temper he has also his fits
of tenderness. If he is now dead to others' sufferings he is at another
time taken with a most amiable childish concern for their happiness.
The germ of this instinct of attachment to society may be said to
disclose itself in a rude form in the first weeks of life, when he
begins to get used to and to depend on the human presence, and is
miserable when this is taken from him.
In this instinct of companionship there is involved a vague inarticulate
kind of sympathy. Just as the attached dog may be said to have in a dim
fashion a feeling of oneness with its master, so the child. The intenser
realisation of this oneness comes after separation. A girl of thirteen
months was separated from her mother during six weeks. On the return of
the latter she was speechless, and for some time could not bear to leave
her restored companion for a minute. A like outbreak of tender sympathy
is apt to follow a fit of naughtiness when a child feels itself taken
back to the mother's heart.
Sympathy, it is commonly said, is a kind of imitation, and this is
strikingly illustrated in its early forms. A child has been observed
under the age of seven months to look unhappy, drawing down well the
corners of the mouth in the characteristic baby-fashion when his nurse
pretended to cry.
This imitative sympathy deepens with attachment. We see something of it
in the child's make-believe. When, for example, a little girl on finding
that her mother's head ached pretended to have a bad head, we appear to
see the working of an impulse to get near and share in others'
experiences. The same feeling shows itself in play, especially in the
treatment of the doll, which has to go through all that the child goes
through, to be bathed, scolded, nursed when poorly, and so forth.
From this imitative acting of another's trouble, so as to share in it,
there is but a step to that more direct apprehension of it which we call
sympathy. Children sometimes begin to display such understanding of
others' trouble early in the second year. One mite of fourteen months
was quite concerned at the misery of an elder sister, crawling towards
her and making comical endeavours by grunts and imitative movements of
the fingers to allay her crying. I have a number of stories showing that
for a period beginning early in the second year it is not uncommon for
children to betray an exuberance of pity, being moved almost to tears,
for example, when the mother says, "_Poor_ uncle!" or when contemplating
in a picture the tragic fate of Humpty Dumpty.
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