Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
Very sweet and sacred to a mother are the first manifestations of
tenderness towards herself. A child about the age of two has a way of
looking at and touching its mother's face with something of the
rapturous expression of a lover. Still sweeter, perhaps, are the first
clear indications of loving concern. The temporary loss of her presence,
due to illness or other cause, is often the occasion for the appearance
of a deeper tenderness. A little boy of three spontaneously brought his
story-book to his mother when she lay in bed ill; and the same child
used to follow her about after her recovery with all the devotion of a
little knight. At other times it is the suspicion of an injury to his
beloved one, as when one little fellow seeing the strange doctor lay
hold of his mother's wrist stood up like an outraged turkey-cock,
backing into his mother's skirts, ready to charge the assaulter.
A deeper and thoughtful kind of sympathy often comes with the advent of
the more reflective years. Thought about the overhanging terror, death,
is sometimes its awakener. "Are you old, mother?" asked a boy of five.
"Why?" she answered. "Because," he continued, "the older you are the
nearer you are to dying." There was no doubt thought of his own loss in
this question: yet there was, one may hope, a germ of solicitude for the
mother too.
This first thought for others frequently takes the practical form of
helpfulness. A child loves nothing better than to assist in little
household occupations. A boy of two years and one month happened to
overhear his nurse say to herself: "I wish that Anne would remember to
fill the nursery boiler". "He listened, and presently trotted off; found
the said Anne doing a distant grate, pulled her by the apron, saying:
'Nanna, Nanna!' (come to nurse). She followed, surprised and puzzled,
the child pulling all the way, till, having got her into the nursery, he
pointed to the boiler, and added: 'Go dare, go dare,' so that the girl
comprehended and did as he bade her."
With this practical form of sympathy there goes a quite charming
disposition to give pleasure in other ways. A little girl when just a
year old was given to offering her toys, flowers, and other pretty
things to everybody. Generosity is as truly an impulse of childhood as
greediness, and it is odd to observe their alternate play. Early in the
second year, too, children are wont to show themselves kindly by giving
kisses and other pretty courtesies. In truth from about this date they
are often quite charming in their expressions of good will, so that the
good Bishop Earle hardly exaggerates when he writes of the child: "He
kisses and loves all, and when the smart of the rod is past, smiles on
his beater". Later on a like amiable disposition will show itself in
graceful turns of speech, as when a little girl, aged three and a
quarter, petitioned her mother this wise: "Please, mamma, will you pin
this with the greatest pleasure?"
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