Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
I do not say that these are the only impulses which prompt to this early
fibbing. From some records of the first years I learn that a child may
drift into something like a lie under the pressure of fear, more
especially fear of being scolded. One little fellow, more than once
instanced in this work, a single child brought up wholly by his mother,
perpetrated his first fib when he was about twenty-two months old. He
went, it seems, and threw his doll down stairs in one of those
capricious outbursts towards favourites which children share with
certain sovereigns, then went to his mother and making great pretence of
grief said, "Poor dolly tumbled". If this had stood alone I should have
been ready to look on it as a little childish comedy; but the same child
a month or two afterwards would invent a fib when he wanted his mother
to do something. For example, he was one morning lying in bed with his
mother and wanted much to get up. His mother told him to look for the
watch and see what time it was. He felt under the pillow pretending to
find and consult the time-teller, saying: "Time to get up". Here it was
clearly the force of the young will resisting an unpleasant check which
excited the sober faculties to something like deception.
To say that our moral discipline with its injunctions, its corrections,
is a great promoter of childish untruth may sound shocking, but it is I
think an indisputable truth. We can see how this begins to work in the
first years. For example, a mite of three having in a moment of temper
called her mother "monkey," and being questioned as to what she had
said, replied: "I said _I_ was a monkey". A child is often driven into
such ruses by the instinct of self-protection.
Our system of discipline may develop untruth in other ways too. When,
for example, punishment has been inflicted and its inflicter, relenting,
asks: "Are you sorry?" or "Aren't you sorry?" the answer is exceedingly
likely to be "No," even though this may at the moment be half felt to be
untrue. From such partial untruths the way is easy to complete ones, as
when a naughty little boy who is shut up in his room and kept without
food, is asked: "Are you hungry?" and with the hardihood of a confirmed
sinner answers "No," even though the low and dismal tone of the word
shows how much the untruth goes against the grain.
I think there is no doubt, then, that at a certain age children may,
more especially under a severe home authority, develop, apart from
contagion, a tendency to falsehood. Some may see in this, as in childish
fears and cruelties, rudiments of characteristics which belonged to
remote uncivilised ancestors. However this be, it is hard to say that
these fibs have that clear intention to deceive which constitutes a
complete lie.
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