Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
All this, moreover, seems to show that a child objects not only to the
particular administration under which he happens to live, but to all law
as implying restraints on free activity. Thus, from the child's point of
view, so far as we have yet examined it, punishment as such is a thing
which ought not to be.
So strong and deep-reaching is this antagonism to law and its restraints
apt to be that the common longing to be "big" is, I believe, largely
grounded on the expectation of liberty. To be big seems to the child
more than anything else to be able to do what one likes without
interference from others. "Do you know," asked a little fellow of four
years, "what I shall do when I'm a big man? I'll go to a shop and buy a
bun and pick out all the currants." One must have left in him much of
the child in order to understand the fascination of that forbidden
pleasure of daintily selecting the currants.
(_b_) _On the Side of Law._
If, however, we look closer we shall find that this hostility is not the
whole, perhaps not the most fundamental part, of a child's attitude
towards law. It is evident that the early criticism of parental
government referred to above, so far from implying rejection of all
rule, plainly implies its acceptance. Some of the earliest and bitterest
protests against interference are directed against what looks to the
child irregular or opposed to law, as when, for example, he is allowed
for some time to use a pair of scissors as a plaything, and is then
suddenly deprived of it. And does not all the exercise of childish
ingenuity in excuses imply in an indirect way that _if he had done_ what
is described in the indictment it would be naughty and deserving of
punishment?
Other facts in early life bear out the conjecture that a child has
law-abiding as well as law-resisting impulses. I think we may often
discern evidence of this in his suffering when in disgrace. When he is
too young perhaps to feel the shame, he will feel, and acutely too, the
estrangement, the loneliness, the sudden shrinkage of his beloved world.
The greater the love and the dependence, the greater will be this
feeling of devastation. The same little boy who said to his mother: "I'd
be a worse mother," remarked to her a few months later that if he could
say what he liked to God it would be: "Love me when I'm naughty".
There is, perhaps, in this childish suffering often something more than
the sense of being homeless and outcast. A child of four or five may, I
conceive, when suffering disgrace have a dim consciousness of having
broken with his normal orderly self, of having set at defiance that
which he customarily honours and obeys.
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