Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matterSully, James
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Children's Ways: Being selections from the author's "Studies of childhood," with some additional matter
Sully, James
Child development; Child psychology
Now this setting up of an orderly law-abiding self seems to me to imply
that there are impulses which make for order. A child, as I understand
the little sphinx, is at once the subject of ever-changing
caprices--whence the delight in playful defiance of all rule and
order--and the reverer of custom, precedent, rule. And, as I conceive,
this reverence for precedent and rule is the deeper and the stronger
impulse.
_The Young Stickler for the Proprieties._
I believe that those who know young children will agree with me that
they show an instinctive respect for what is customary and according to
rule, such as a particular way of taking food, dressing, and definite
times for doing this and that. Nor can we regard this as merely a
reflection of our respect for law, for as we shall presently see it
reaches far beyond the limits of the rules laid down by adults. It seems
to be a true instinct which comes before education and makes education
possible. It is related to habit, the great principle which runs through
the whole of life.
The first crude manifestation of this disposition to make rule is seen
in the insistence on the customary, as to the places of things, the
order of procedure at meals and such like. The little boy of two, often
quoted here, showed a punctilious feeling for order in the placing of
things. He protested one morning in his mother's bedroom against a
hair-brush being placed on the washing-stand near the tooth-brushes,
saying quaintly: "That toof-brush is a brush one". Older children are
apt to be sticklers for order at the meal-table: thus, the cup and the
spoon have to be put in precisely the right place. Similarly, the
sequences of the day, _e.g._, the lesson before the walk, the walk
before bed, have to be rigorously observed. This feeling for order may
develop itself even where the system of parental government is by no
means characterised by rigorous insistence on such minutiæ of procedure.
This impulse to extend rule appears more plainly in many of the little
ceremonial observances of the child. Very charmingly is this respect for
rule exhibited in all dealings with animals, also dolls and other pets.
Not only are they required to do things in a proper orderly manner, but
people have to treat them with due deference. One little fellow when
saying good-night to his mother insisted on her going through with his
doll precisely the same round of kissing and hand-shaking that he
required in his own case.
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