United States -- Social life and customs -- To 1775; Women -- United States
A glowing tribute to one of these Boston widows was paid by that
gossiping traveller, John Dunton, with so much evidence of deep
interest, and even sentiment, that I fancy Madam Dunton could not have
been wholly pleased with the writing and the printing thereof. He
called this Widow Breck the “flower of Boston,” the “Chosen exemplar
of what a Widow is.” He extols her high character, beauty, and
resignation, and then bridles with satisfaction while he says, “Some
have been pleas’d to say That were I in a single state they do believe
she wou’d not be displeas’d with my addresses.” He rode on horseback
on a long journey with his fair widow on a pillion behind him, and if
his conversation on “Platonicks and the blisses of Matrimony” was half
as tedious as his recounting of it, the road must indeed have seemed
long. He says her love for her dead husband is as strong as death, but
Widow Breck proved the strength of her constancy by speedily marrying a
second husband, Michael Perry.
As an instance of the complicated family relations which might arise in
marrying widows, let me cite the familiar case of the rich merchant,
Peter Sergeant, the builder of the famous Province House in Boston. I
will use Mr. Shurtleff’s explanation of this bewildering gallimaufrey
of widows and widowers:--
He was as remarkable in his marriages as his wealth; for he had three
wives, the second having been a widow twice before her third venture;
and his third also a widow, and even becoming his widow, and lastly
the widow of her third husband.
To this I may add that this last husband, Simon Stoddart, also had
three wives, that his father had four, of whom the last three were
widows,--but all this goes beyond the modern brain to comprehend, and
reminds us most unpleasantly of the wife of Bath.
These frequent and speedy marriages were not wholly owing to the
exigencies of colonial life, but were the custom of the times in Europe
as well. I read in the diary of the Puritan John Rous, in January,
1638, of this somewhat hasty wooing:--
A gentleman carried his wife to London last week and died about eight
o’clock at night, leaving her five hundred pounds a year in land. The
next day before twelve she was married to the journeyman woolen-draper
that came to sell mourning to her.
I do not believe John Rous made special note of this marriage simply
because it was so speedy, but because it was unsuitable; as a landed
widow was, in social standing, far above a journeyman draper.
As we approach Revolutionary days, the reign of widows is still
absolute.
Washington loved at fifteen a fair unknown, supposed to be Lucy Grimes,
afterward mother of Gen. Henry Lee. To her he wrote sentimental poems,
from which we gather (as might be expected at that age) that he was too
bashful to reveal his love. A year later he writes:--
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