New York (State) -- History -- Colonial period, ca. 1600-1775; New York (State) -- Social life and customs -- To 1775
Occasionally breach-of-promise suits were brought. In 1654 Greetje
Waemans produced a marriage ring and two letters, promissory of
marriage, and requested that on that evidence Daniel de Silla be
“condemned to legally marry her.” He vainly pleaded his unfortunate
habit of some days drinking too much, and that on those days he
did much which he regretted; among other things, his bacchanalian
love-making of Greetje. François Soleil, the New Amsterdam gunsmith,
another recreant lover, swore he would rather go away and live with the
Indians (a terrible threat) than marry the fair Rose whom he had left
to droop neglected--and unmarried.
One curious law-case is shown by the injunction to Pieter Kock and
Anna van Voorst. They had entered into an agreement of marriage, and
then had been unwilling to be wedded. The burgomasters and _schepens_
decided that the promise should remain in force, and that neither
should marry any other person without the permission of the other and
the Court; but Anna did marry very calmly (when she got ready) another
more desirable and desired man without asking any one’s permission.
It certainly gives us a great sense of the simplicity of living in
those days to read the account of the suit of the patroon of Staten
Island in 1642 against the parents of a fair young Elsje for loss
of services through her marriage. She had been bound out to him as
a servant, and had married secretly before her time of service had
expired. The bride told the worshipful magistrates that she did not
know the young man when her mother and another fetched him to see
her; that she refused his suit several times, but finally married
him willingly enough,--in fact, eloped with him in a sail-boat.
She demurely offered to return to the Court, as compensation and
mollification, the pocket-handkerchief which was her husband’s
wedding-gift to her. Two years later, Elsje (already a widow) appeared
as plaintiff in a breach-of-promise suit; and offered, as proof of
her troth-plight, a shilling-piece which was her second lover’s not
more magnificent gift. Though not so stated in the chronicle, this
handkerchief was doubtless given in a “marriage-knot,”--a handkerchief
in which was tied a gift of money. If the girl to whom it was given
untied the knot, it was a sign of consent to be speedily married. This
fashion of marriage-knots still exists in parts of Holland. Sometimes
the knot bears a motto; one reads when translated, “Being in love does
no harm if love finds its recompense in love; but if love has ceased,
all labor is in vain. Praise God.”
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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