Divorce versus DemocracyChesterton, G. K. (Gilbert Keith)
Philosophy
Divorce versus Democracy
Chesterton, G. K. (Gilbert Keith)
Divorce
I will take but one instance of the enormity and silliness which is
really implied in these proposals for the extension of divorce. Take the
case quoted by many contributors to the discussion in the papers--the
case of what is called “cruelty.” Now what is the real meaning of this
as regards the prosperous and as regards the struggling classes of the
community? Let us take the prosperous classes first. Every one knows
that those who are really to be described as gentlemen all profess a
particular tradition, partly chivalrous, partly merely modern and
refined--a tradition against “laying hands upon a woman, save in a way
of kindness.” I do not mean that a gentleman hates the cowing of a woman
by brute force: any one must hate that. I mean he has a ritual, taboo
kind of feeling about the laying on of a finger. If a gentleman (real or
imitation) has struck his wife ever so lightly, he feels he has done one
of those things that thrill the thoughts with the notion of a
border-line; something like saying the Lord’s Prayer backwards, touching
a hot kettle, reversing the crucifix, or “breaking the pledge.” The
wife may forgive the husband more easily for this than for many things;
but the husband will find it hard to forgive himself. It is a purely
class sentiment, like the poor folks’ dislike of hospitals. What is the
effect of this class sentiment on divorce among the higher classes?
The first effect, of course, is greatly to assist those faked divorces
so common among the fashionable. I mean that where there is a collusion,
a small pat or push can be remembered, exaggerated, or invented; and yet
seem to the solemn judges a very solemn thing in people of their own
social class. But outside these cases, the test is not wholly
inappropriate as applied to the richer classes. For, all gentlemen
feeling or affecting this special horror, it does really look bad if a
gentleman has broken through it; it does look like madness or a personal
hatred and persecution. It may even look like worse things. If a man
with luxurious habits, in artistic surroundings, is cruel to his wife,
it may be connected with some perversion of sex cruelty, such as was
alleged (I know not how truly) in the case of the millionaire Thaw. We
need not deny that such cases are cases for separation, if not for
divorce.
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