Frances Mary Buss and her work for educationRidley, Annie E.
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Frances Mary Buss and her work for education
Ridley, Annie E.
Buss, Frances Mary, 1827-1894
“I think, in those early days, it was her sweet and motherly way
of drawing each one of us to her, and caring for each particular
person’s concerns, and remembering them, which impressed me more
than anything else, excepting indeed her very encouraging
manner. She lost no opportunity of saying a loving word of
praise, and it would be accompanied by a motherly hug, which
warmed one’s heart for a long time. That comfortable, loving
manner was a great power among teachers and pupils. Many a girl
who had given trouble in one department or another, would go out
of the parlour, after a talk with Miss Buss, thoroughly softened
and helped into a right frame of mind.”
This motherly kindness won the devotion of a lifetime from the lonely
girl so early called to face the world, and Caroline Fawcett well earned
her great privilege of being one of the little band whose love soothed
the last hours of the friend who had been so much in their lives. Her
latest thought, as she writes on that sad New Year’s Eve, is the same as
the first of so many years before—
“But, indeed, it must be a great miss for us, the never being
able to go to her for motherly loving sympathy. One of the
lights that will go on shining out of her life, and will kindle
others, is that loving motherliness. If one could only show a
little of it, following in her dear footsteps!”
This aspect of her character impressed even those who had to do with
Miss Buss outside her own work. Mr. Garrod, secretary to the Teachers’
Guild, who knew her in her public life, says of her: “To me she seemed
to be one who was born to shine as head of a family, and to have the
domestic rather than the public excellencies.”
Her school can fairly be regarded as her family, for she may be said to
have “mothered” them all—teachers as well as pupils—even in the later
days, when public work took so much of her attention. Miss Emily Hickey,
one of the visiting professors, who came so much less into contact with
her than did the teaching staff, puts this well, as she says of her
intense “motherliness”—
“There is no other word for it. No one brought into any
emotional contact with her, could fail to realize this, and one
can see how much it must have had to do in binding so fast to
her so many women so much younger than she, both in years and in
experience.”
Mrs. Marks says also—
“I remember when I saw her again some years afterwards, and I
remember how like a mother she seemed to me who wanted a mother
so dreadfully. Always after that I thought of her as a sort of
_universal mother_. There are few women like that!”
On reading these words, a pupil of later years adds to them—
“I, too, wanted a mother, and found so much of what I wanted in
her. These might have been my own words, and are, indeed, almost
identical with what I have said.”
And yet another—
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