She is in all things literally the better half of her people. Observe her
in all classes, and you will have no further need of explanation of the
striking prosperity, strength, and self-sufficiency of France itself.
Cheerful, competent, thrifty creature, how could the land that owns her
go to the dogs, whatever the decadents and politicians may do? She is
the force of the country, its stable influence and salvation. The home
rests upon her, and she makes of it a delicious nest for her children,
who may exaggerate the outward form of their love for her, but who can
never exaggerate the inward devotion they owe her. She has taught them,
it is true, to think too much about money, to be too ready to dispute
the wills of recalcitrant relatives who wish to leave their fortunes
to others than themselves; she has left them too little liberty, and
trained them in ignorance of such a virtue as disinterestedness; she
is too apt to encourage her son in the theory of the wild oats-sowing,
without even the saving grace of limiting that period to pre-nuptial
days, being trained herself in the fixed conviction of her land,
that man is a tameless beast who cannot exist without fugitive loves
throughout his chequered career. Indeed, I have heard a very pious old
French lady assert that a married man may have a hundred mistresses
and be a perfectly honest man whom nobody should criticise. When I
made respectful mention of the wife’s injuries, she shrugged, called
me an unsophisticated fool, and said that every sensible girl, on her
wedding-morn, understood what she was facing, and, if she were well-bred,
she was wise enough to keep her eyes shut. No wife, she maintained, could
expect to learn anything to her advantage by prying into her husband’s
habits and distractions outside the portals of home, and so her wisdom
lay in studied ignorance. The thing to prevent in a husband or son was
extravagance. So long as the purse-strings remained unloosened, and the
health was uninjured, a judicious woman should ask for nothing more from
the men around her. For this reason, the novelists show us the French
mother as charmed to discover that her son has started romantic relations
with the wife of a wealthy friend. She is convinced that he must have a
mistress, and her only hope is that he shall choose one who will not ruin
him in purse or in health. Of his heart and happiness in these matters
she seems to care not a pin, possibly because of the talent for cynicism
possessed by the French, which declines to recognise heart outside the
family. If every poison has its antidote, so has every quality its
drawback. This beautiful maternal devotion we so admire is practised
to the detriment of all outsiders. The French mother would make a
holocaust of all humanity on the altar of her offspring’s advancement and
interest. She will gladly toil for him or for her, save francs and pence
for either, deprive herself of what she most loves, accomplish for her
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