Friendly Visiting among the Poor: A Handbook for Charity WorkersRichmond, Mary Ellen
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Friendly Visiting among the Poor: A Handbook for Charity Workers
Richmond, Mary Ellen
Friendly visiting
In the winter Mrs. X. consulted her visitor as to the possibility of her
giving up the Provident help and supporting herself by taking boarders.
"She had friends all ready to come, and could arrange to hire additional
rooms. All she needed was extra bedding. She felt confident of success.
Her health was better than it had been for a long time, and she was
improved in energy and courage. By dint of great persuasion, the
Provident consented to give the bedding. They also promised to continue
giving coal; but the other help, it was arranged, should stop. They had
little hope, however, that the experiment would succeed. But the
experiment did succeed, and better {212} than I had anticipated. Mrs. X.
proved a good manager. She made a comfortable home, clothed the
children, and provided many little comforts of which they had long been
deprived. She became cheerful and hopeful for the future. She seemed
like a different person from the sick, discouraged woman I had known nine
months before.
"When her husband came home from the Island, I feared he might disturb
this prosperity, for he acted worse than ever; but in January he attacked
her with a knife, so she had him again arrested, and sent to the Island
for four months. She then told me she wished to take steps for a
separation. I encouraged her in this decision, but was careful not to
urge her, for I felt that such a step to be successful must be taken by
her own desire.
"So, as spring approached, I hoped that better days had really come for
this family. Unfortunately, however, in March a sad accident brought
this prosperous state of things to a sudden end. On the morning of March
10, N. brought me word that his mother had fallen downstairs and broken
her arm, and asked me to call as soon as possible. I found the poor
woman in bed, with her right wrist broken, and her face and body badly
bruised. She was in great pain, and so discouraged that it was pitiful.
Her boarders had gone, and she found herself once more dependent on
charity; but I felt I could say {213} from a full heart that the help she
now needed would not be grudged to her. For, surely, no one could help
respecting her endeavor for self-support or could regard her effort as a
failure; and, when her accident reduced her once more to dependence, her
rent was paid for the rest of the month, she had a bag of flour and other
groceries in the house, and $8.00 in money with which to pay the doctor
for setting her wrist." The visitor adds: "I think that during this
year's visiting Mrs. X. had really learned to regard me as a friend. At
first I do not think she liked me very well, and I also found it hard
cordially to like her. We were not naturally sympathetic. I am afraid
that she often thought me hard; and she had a dreary, complaining way
that tried me a great deal. But her good qualities commanded my respect
and her misfortunes my pity; and on her my evident desire to befriend her
gradually had its effect.
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