Friends in Council — First SeriesHelps, Arthur, Sir
Philosophy
Friends in Council — First Series
Helps, Arthur, Sir
Conduct of life
_Ellesmere_. There is one thing that I should think must often make
women very unreasonable and unpleasant companions. Oh, you may both hold
up your hands and eyes, but I am not married, and can say what I please.
Of course you put on the proper official look of astonishment; and I will
duly report it. But I was going to say that Chivalry, which has
doubtless done a great deal of good, has also done a great deal of harm.
Women may talk the greatest unreason out of doors, and nobody kindly
informs them that it is unreason. They do not talk much before clever
men, and when they do, their words are humoured and dandled as children’s
sayings are. Now, I should fancy—mind, I do not want either of you to
say that my fancy is otherwise than quite unreasonable—I should fancy
that when women have to hear reason at home it must sound odd to them.
The truth is, you know, we cannot pet anything much without doing it
mischief. You cannot pet the intellect, any more than the will, without
injuring it. Well then, again, if you put people upon a pedestal and do
a great deal of worship around them, I cannot think but the will in such
cases must become rather corrupted, and that lessons of obedience must
fall rather harshly—
_Dunsford_. Why, you Mahometan, you Turk of a lawyer—would you do away
with all the high things of courtesy, tenderness for the weaker, and—
_Milverton_. No, I see what he means; and there is something in it.
Many a woman is brought up in unreason and self-will from these causes
that he has given, as many a man from other causes; but there is one
great corrective that he has omitted, and which is, that all forms,
fashions, and outward things have a tendency to go down before realities
when they come hand to hand together. Knowledge and judgment prevail.
Governing is apt to fall to the right person in private as in public
affairs.
_Ellesmere_. Those who give way in public affairs, and let the men who
can do a thing do it, are so far wise that they know what is to be done,
mostly. But the very things I am arguing against are the unreason and
self-will, which being constantly pampered, do not appreciate reason or
just sway. Besides, is there not a force in ill-humour and unreason to
which you constantly see the wisest bend? You will come round to my
opinion some day. I do not want, though, to convince you. It is no
business of mine.
_Milverton_. Well, I may be wrong, but I think, when we come to consider
education, I can show you how the dangers you fear may be greatly
obviated, without Chivalry being obliged to put on a wig and gown, and be
wise.
_Dunsford_. Meanwhile, let us enjoy the delightful atmosphere of
courtesy, unreasonable sometimes, if you like, which saves many people
being put down with the best arguments in the most convincing manner, or
being weighed, estimated, and given way to, so as not to spoil them.
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