Good Form and Christian EtiquetteHenry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Religion
Good Form and Christian Etiquette
Henry, S. M. I. (Sarepta Myrenda Irish)
Etiquette
Good form requires that the introduction of any two persons should be by
the desire of both. The slightest objection upon the part of either
would make the introduction a gross intrusion. The reasons for this are
obvious. Society has seen that after the introduction, anything may
follow, and the only chance for a young woman to protect herself from
undesirable and dangerous association, may be in the rigid enforcement
of this simple rule of rights. The proper form of introduction is that
which is most easy and graceful in manner for the one who is to do the
introducing. As in everything else, individuality should be given a
chance; the spirit and manner carries much more weight than the words.
Always, however, the person who is to be in any way advantaged by the
introduction, favored either in pleasure or profit, is the one who is to
be presented to the other. For instance, Mr. Lane has seen Miss Mason,
and has recognized her as one whose acquaintance he would enjoy. He asks
a mutual friend to secure the privilege of this introduction; Miss Mason
has been asked the favor with the assumption that it will be entirely
for Mr. Lane’s advantage and pleasure. Miss Mason is gracious, and
consents to grant the request. Mr. Lane is therefore brought to the
place where the young lady is waiting. Never should a person who is to
receive another be asked to come to be introduced. Bring the candidate
for this social favor, to the one of whom it has been asked, and upon
approaching, you will say, “Miss Mason, allow me the pleasure of
presenting Mr. Lane. Mr. Lane, Miss Mason,” upon which Miss Mason will
bow slightly, Mr. Lane a little more noticeably. They will not shake
hands, but will stand, or perhaps be seated, and converse for a few
moments, when Mr. Lane will take his leave, if he knows what is good for
him, and wait for some further recognition from Miss Mason.
Among very intimate friends, where it is well known that an acquaintance
would certainly be a mutual pleasure and benefit, this formula is not
always necessary. I have been giving the strict social good-form code,
which is for protection against annoyances. It would be an unfortunate
social misdemeanor for any person to make the second effort to receive
an introduction which has been once declined, without some advances from
the person who had made the refusal.
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