Graham's Magazine, Vol. XXXVI, No. 1, January 1850Various
General
Graham's Magazine, Vol. XXXVI, No. 1, January 1850
Various
Literature -- Periodicals; Literature, Modern -- 19th century -- Periodicals
A young professional man, entirely dependent on his own efforts, is
always in danger of falling into the error of considering an
“advantageous” marriage as a most desirable thing. When we say
advantageous, we mean in a money point of view. Years, in the natural
course of things, must elapse before a profitable position can be
gained; and, in looking down the long vista of the future, feelings of
discouragement will naturally arise. To some, the prospect appears
almost hopeless. The young lawyer without a case on his docket, the
young physician who waits day after day for a patient, the young
minister with a hundred a year, and the young artist who paints and
draws, day after day, but has no sitter in his studio, if dependent on
their own exertions, all feel painfully the pressure of poverty. To such
the imagination will picture the advantages that money would give, and
as there is no hope of gaining money except by a slow and laborious
process through years of toil, self-denial and mortification, it is too
often the case that marriage is thought of as the means of over-leaping
all the trials and troubles that present themselves in a long and
disheartening array. With a competency in hand, how interesting would be
the profession adopted as a life-pursuit. The lawyer could bury himself
in his library without thinking about or caring for the daily bread,
diving deeper and deeper into the mysteries of his craft, and preparing
himself for a sudden stride into eminence when the day of full
preparation had come; the physician could go on with his experiments and
studies; the preacher minister lovingly to his flock, in some quiet
valley far removed from the strife and “shock of men;” and the artist
give himself up to the worship of the beautiful, undisturbed by the
little cares and wants that take away so much of the mind’s present
enjoyment. Thus, the imagination pictures a happy state of things if
money were only in possession. And what easier mode of obtaining this,
in every way to-be-desired, possession, than an advantageous marriage?
None—is the conclusion of the young aspirant for some of the world’s
higher honors. And so he goes into society and seeks an alliance with
some fair young daughter of Eve, who, among her other attractions,
possesses a few thousands of dollars. If he be a young man of naturally
delicate feelings and independent mind, the fact that he obtained a
fortune with his wife, be it large or small, will most probably make one
of the most bitter ingredients in his cup of life. Thus it proved with
Alfred Ellison, a young artist formerly residing in Philadelphia, who
sought an “advantageous” alliance as a means of professional
advancement; and as the history of his married life is full of
instruction, we will endeavor to write out some portions of it
faithfully.
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