Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
is in danger of this loss of equilibrium; and so we notice it in
sensitive children, especially girls, in young people between fourteen
and twenty, and at all ages in persons of unstable individuality.
This disturbance of our equilibrium by the outgoing of the imagination
toward another person’s point of view means that we are undergoing his
influence. In the presence of one whom we feel to be of importance there
is a tendency to enter into and adopt, by sympathy, his judgment of
ourself, to put a new value on ideas and purposes, to recast life in his
image. With a very sensitive person this tendency is often evident to
others in ordinary conversation and in trivial matters. By force of an
impulse springing directly from the delicacy of his perceptions he is
continually imagining how he appears to his interlocutor, and accepting
the image, for the moment, as himself. If the other appears to think him
well-informed on some recondite matter, he is likely to assume a learned
expression; if thought judicious he looks as if he were, if accused of
dishonesty he appears guilty, and so on. In short, a sensitive man, in
the presence of an impressive personality, tends to become, for the
time, his interpretation of what the other thinks he is. It is only the
heavy-minded who will not feel this to be true, in some degree, of
themselves. Of course it is usually a temporary and somewhat superficial
phenomenon; but it is typical of all ascendency, and helps us to
understand how persons have power over us through some hold upon our
imaginations, and how our personality grows and takes form by divining
the appearance of our present self to other minds.
So long as a character is open and capable of growth it retains a
corresponding impressibility, which is not weakness unless it swamps the
assimilating and organizing faculty. I know men whose careers are a
proof of stable and aggressive character who have an almost feminine
sensitiveness regarding their seeming to others. Indeed, if one sees a
man whose attitude toward others is always assertive, never receptive,
he may be confident that man will never go far, because he will never
learn much. In character, as in every phase of life, health requires a
just union of stability with plasticity.
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