Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
There is a vague excitement of the social self more general than any
particular emotion or sentiment. Thus the mere presence of people, a
“sense of other persons,” as Professor Baldwin says, and an awareness of
their observation, often causes a vague discomfort, doubt, and tension.
One feels that there is a social image of himself lurking about, and not
knowing what it is he is obscurely alarmed. Many people, perhaps most,
feel more or less agitation and embarrassment under the observation of
strangers, and for some even sitting in the same room with unfamiliar or
uncongenial people is harassing and exhausting. It is well known, for
instance, that a visit from a stranger would often cost Darwin his
night’s sleep, and many similar examples could be collected from the
records of men of letters. At this point, however, it is evident that we
approach the borders of mental pathology.
Possibly some will think that I exaggerate the importance of social
self-feeling by taking persons and periods of life that are abnormally
sensitive. But I believe that with all normal and human people it
remains, in one form or another, the mainspring of endeavor and a chief
interest of the imagination throughout life. As is the case with other
feelings, we do not think much of it so long as it is moderately and
regularly gratified. Many people of balanced mind and congenial activity
scarcely know that they care what others think of them, and will deny,
perhaps with indignation, that such care is an important factor in what
they are and do. But this is illusion. If failure or disgrace arrives,
if one suddenly finds that the faces of men show coldness or contempt
instead of the kindliness and deference that he is used to, he will
perceive from the shock, the fear, the sense of being outcast and
helpless, that he was living in the minds of others without knowing it,
just as we daily walk the solid ground without thinking how it bears us
up. This fact is so familiar in literature, especially in modern novels,
that it ought to be obvious enough. The works of George Eliot are
particularly strong in the exposition of it. In most of her novels there
is some character like Mr. Bulstrode in “Middlemarch” or Mr. Jermyn in
“Felix Holt,” whose respectable and long-established social image of
himself is shattered by the coming to light of hidden truth.
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