Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
With some this ideal is quite definite and visible before the eye of the
mind. I have heard the expression “seeing yourself” applied to it. Thus
one woman says of another “She always sees herself in evening dress,”
meaning that her ideal of herself is one of social propriety or
distinction, and that it takes the form of an image of her visible
person as it appears to others in a shape expressing these traits. This
is, of course, a phase of the reflected self, discussed in the fifth
chapter. Some people “see themselves” so constantly, and strive so
obviously to live up to the image, that they give a curious impression
of always acting a part, as if one should compose a drama with himself
as chief personage, and then spend his life playing it. Perhaps
something of this sort is inevitable with persons of vivid imagination.
Once formed and familiarized the ideal self serves, like any ideal only
more directly, as an incitement to growth in its direction, and a
punishment to retrogression. A man who has become used to imagining
himself as noble, beneficent and respected has a real picture in his
mind, a fair product of aspiring thought, a work of art. If his conduct
violates this imagination he has a sense of ugliness and shame; there is
a rent in the picture, a rude, shapeless hole, shattering its beauty,
and calling for painful and tedious repairs before it can be even
tolerable to look upon. Repentance is the pain of this spectacle; and
the clearer and more firmly conceived the ideal, the greater the pain.
The ideal person or persons of an ethical religion are the highest
expression of this creative outreaching of the mind after the admirable
in personality. It can hardly be supposed, by anyone who is willing to
go into the psychology of the matter at all, that they are radically
different from other ideal persons, or in any way sharply divided from
the mass of personal thought. Any comparative study of idealism, among
nations in various stages of civilization, among persons of different
intellectual power, among the various periods of development in one
individual, can hardly fail, I should say, to leave a conviction that
all hangs together, that there is no chasm anywhere, that the most
rudimentary idealizing impulse of the savage or the child is of a piece
with the highest religious conceptions. The tendency of such a view, of
course, is not to drag down the exalted, but to show all as part of a
common life.
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