Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
Science
Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
I do not think that early smiles are imitative. I observed both my
children carefully to discover whether they smiled in response to a
smile, and obtained negative results when they were under ten months
old. A baby does not smile by imitation, but because he is pleased; and
what pleases him in the first year of life is usually some rather
obvious stimulus to the senses. If you wish a smile you must earn it by
acceptable exertion; it does no good to smirk. The belief that many
people seem to have that infants respond to smiling is possibly due to
the fact that when a grown-up person appears, both he and the infant are
likely to smile, each at the other; but although the smiles are
simultaneous one need not be the cause of the other, and many
observations lead me to think that it makes no difference to the infant
whether the grown-up person smiles or not. He has not yet learned to
appreciate this rather subtle phenomenon.
At this and at all later ages the delight in companionship so evident in
children may be ascribed partly to specific social emotion or sentiment,
and partly to a need of stimulating suggestions to enable them to
gratify their instinct for various sorts of mental and physical
activity. The influence of the latter appears in their marked preference
for active persons, for grown-up people who will play with them—provided
they do so with tact—and especially for other children. It is the same
throughout life; alone one is like fireworks without a match: he cannot
set himself off, but is a victim of _ennui_, the prisoner of some
tiresome train of thought that holds his mind simply by the absence of a
competitor. A good companion brings release and fresh activity, the
primal delight in a fuller existence. So with the child: what excitement
when visiting children come! He shouts, laughs, jumps about, produces
his playthings and all his accomplishments. He needs to express himself,
and a companion enables him to do so. The shout of another boy in the
distance gives him the joy of shouting in response.
But the need is for something more than muscular or sensory activities.
There is also a need of feeling, an overflowing of personal emotion and
sentiment, set free by the act of communication. By the time a child is
a year old the social feeling that at first is indistinguishable from
sensuous pleasure has become much specialized upon persons, and from
that time onward to call it forth by reciprocation is a chief aim of his
life. Perhaps it will not be out of place to emphasize this by
transcribing two or three notes taken from life.
“M. will now [eleven months old] hold up something she has found, _e.
g._, the petal of a flower, or a little stick, demanding your
attention to it by grunts and squeals. When you look and make some
motion or exclamation she smiles.”
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