Sexism; Women -- Social and moral questions; Women -- Social conditions
In this security lies the most important of all the benefits that a
woman attains by marriage. It is, in fact, the most important benefit
that the mind can imagine, for the whole effort of the human race,
under our industrial society, is concentrated upon the attainment of
it. But there are other benefits, too. One of them is that increase in
dignity which goes with an obvious success; the woman who has got
herself a satisfactory husband, or even a highly imperfect husband, is
regarded with respect by other women, and has a contemptuous patronage
for those who have failed to do likewise. Again, marriage offers her
the only safe opportunity, considering the levantine view of women as
property which Christianity has preserved in our civilization, to
obtain gratification for that powerful complex of instincts which we
call the sexual, and, in particular, for the instinct of maternity. The
woman who has not had a child remains incomplete, ill at ease, and more
than a little ridiculous. She is in the position of a man who has never
stood in battle; she has missed the most colossal experience of her
sex. Moreover, a social odium goes with her loss. Other women regard
her as a sort of permanent tyro, and treat her with ill-concealed
disdain, and deride the very virtue which lies at the bottom of her
experiential penury. There would seem to be, indeed, but small respect
among women for virginity per se. They are against the woman who has
got rid of hers outside marriage, not because they think she has lost
anything intrinsically valuable, but because she has made a bad
bargain, and one that materially diminishes the sentimental respect for
virtue held by men, and hence one against the general advantage and
well-being of the sex. In other words, it is a guild resentment that
they feel, not a moral resentment. Women, in general, are not actively
moral, nor, for that matter, noticeably modest. Every man, indeed, who
is in wide practice among them is occasionally astounded and horrified
to discover, on some rainy afternoon, an almost complete absence of
modesty in some women of the highest respectability.
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