Sexism; Women -- Social and moral questions; Women -- Social conditions
Even setting aside this direct influence of heredity, there is the
equally potent influence of example and tuition. It is a gigantic
advantage to live on intimate terms with a first-rate man, and have his
care. Hamilcar not only gave the Carthagenians a great general in his
actual son; he also gave them a great general in his son-in-law,
trained in his camp. But the tendency of the first-rate man to remain a
bachelor is very strong, and Sidney Lee once showed that, of all the
great writers of England since the Renaissance, more than half were
either celibates or lived apart from their wives. Even the married ones
revealed the tendency plainly. For example, consider Shakespeare. He
was forced into marriage while still a minor by the brothers of Ann
Hathaway, who was several years his senior, and had debauched him and
gave out that she was enceinte by him. He escaped from her abhorrent
embraces as quickly as possible, and thereafter kept as far away from
her as he could. His very distaste for marriage, indeed, was the cause
of his residence in London, and hence, in all probability, of the
labours which made him immortal.
In different parts of the world various expedients have been resorted
to to overcome this reluctance to marriage among the better sort of
men. Christianity, in general, combats it on the ground that it is
offensive to God—though at the same time leaning toward an enforced
celibacy among its own agents. The discrepancy is fatal to the
position. On the one hand, it is impossible to believe that the same
God who permitted His own son to die a bachelor regards celibacy as an
actual sin, and on the other hand, it is obvious that the average
cleric would be damaged but little, and probably improved appreciably,
by having a wife to think for him, and to force him to virtue and
industry, and to aid him otherwise in his sordid profession. Where
religious superstitions have died out the institution of the dot
prevails—an idea borrowed by Christians from the Jews. The dot is
simply a bribe designed to overcome the disinclination of the male. It
involves a frank recognition of the fact that he loses by marriage, and
it seeks to make up for that loss by a money payment. Its obvious
effect is to give young women a wider and better choice of husbands. A
relatively superior man, otherwise quite out of reach, may be brought
into camp by the assurance of economic ease, and what is more, he may
be kept in order after he has been taken by the consciousness of his
gain. Among hardheaded and highly practical peoples, such as the Jews
and the French, the dot flourishes, and its effect is to promote
intellectual suppleness in the race, for the average child is thus not
inevitably the offspring of a woman and a noodle, as with us, but may
be the offspring of a woman and a man of reasonable intelligence. But
even in France, the very highest class of men tend to evade marriage;
they resist money almost as unanimously as their Anglo-Saxon brethren
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