Next in the Hopi life-calendar appears the urgent necessity for
marriage. The happy man has very little to do with this affair. The
bride-elect—self-elected—and her mother, a wily dowager who has
contrived a large part of the proceedings, decide most of these things
for themselves. I cannot say how early negotiations have been opened by
the aunts and uncles of both signatories, but of course they have been
consulted. At any rate, on a day the girl and her mother pay a visit to
the eligible young man’s home, and tender his parents a present of piki
bread and cornmeal on a woven-reed plaque. Most Southwest tribes use a
wedding-basket symbol; the Navajo import from another tribe a wedding
basket of definite design, and will use no other. If the boy’s parents
accept these presents and replace them with a portion of mutton on the
same plaque, they have signified their consent to the union. If there
has been dissension between the Montagues and Capulets and a plague on
both houses, so to speak, the disdaining parents give this piki and
meal to others, signifying their lack of interest in mere foreigners,
and these receiving diplomats break the sad news that a perfectly good
offer has been declined.
But if the present is accepted, the uncles of the bride-elect gather at
her home to advise her concerning the duties of a good wife, and at an
appointed time the girl, accompanied by her parents and close
relatives, headed by the one who named her, proceed to the home of the
groom’s parents for a feast. This gathering is held at night, and when
they depart the bride remains. She spends four nights in her husband’s
people’s home, doing the housework for the whole family. Very early in
the morning she begins the corn-grinding, to pay for her husband.
During these four days there is a ceremony of hair-washing, and her
hair is given a peculiar cut to mark her as a married woman. Ever after
she wears it so. And during these four days the boy’s uncles bring in
cotton for her wedding-robe. They are paid for it in meal, and they
depart to the kiva to weave it. While at this weaving, they are fed by
the girl’s family. At the end of the four days the robe is finished.
The uncles heap a wealth of advice on the groom before he departs from
the home of his birth. Then the bride dons the white robe and goes with
her husband to the home of her own parents; that is to say, she is
accompanied by her husband. If he has had any ideas of a home of his
own, away from the precincts of mother-in-law, he has not announced
them, and apparently discretion is the better part of valor.
In this manner a young lady has gone to the home of a desirable young
man, proposed for him, married him, partially paid for him, decked
herself with apparel manufactured by his people, and then led him to
her home in triumph.
There is nothing new under the sun. Vamping was reduced to a precise
science by the Hopi many centuries before the pueblo de Los Angeles was
dreamed of.
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