“And—hark! As I live, again the villagers!”
All this has not been enough to establish cordial relationship between
the families. There must be something in the nature of a riotous
shivaree. These folk who have captured our darling boy must not be
permitted to crow too loud. So the mother of the groom, his influential
aunts and other female relatives, especially those whose temperaments
will lend verve to the affair, proceed to the rival house. They go upon
an errand of mock-seriousness that may assume proportions. They will
say unpleasant things in loud voices, especially for the benefit of the
neighbors, to the effect that this bride has numerous and glaring
defects, and that, if the truth be told, perhaps their paragon has not
acquired the most beautiful and gracious of the village maidens.
The women of the bride’s household reply in kind, their language not
always the most decorous. Personal references are made, involving the
cleanliness and habits of both parties, and a friendly fight is on.
These ladies proceed to sling mud,—at first verbally, and then
actually,—real mud, over the house and each other. The bride and her
mother will have to have a vigorous house-cleaning after this, and
fresh plastering on the interior walls. Perhaps that is the idea of
it—to make them furbish the domicile.
The masculine element is conspicuous by its utter absence. The men know
better than to appear. Like white men on house-cleaning day, they seek
the highest roof or the lowest cellar, along with their disconsolate
dogs. Woe betide any absent-minded one who strays within the field.
Both parties are likely to turn on him with more than words and mud. It
is not likely that the men will dare come home until after sunset,
when, no doubt, their attention will be distracted by recitals of the
affair, and the condition of the home will cause them much grief.
A friendly, if undignified, roughhouse, to show the world that these
two families, now having common interests, can endure the most
unpleasant conditions and survive.
And would you imagine that the groom is ever to have a home of his very
own, with a fireside, and slippers, and everything? Not unless he has
his Agent behind him and bravely kicks over the sacred traditions,
risking ostracism possibly and at least a great deal of home-town
misery. Just how long Jacob will serve that family for Rachel, I am not
aware; and unlike Jacob, he serves after having been snared. He draws
and transports the water, if he has a wagon; he cuts the wood and
attends the field; he wrangles horses, herds cattle, and helps manicure
the sheep. He is owned by this old mother who directed her daughter’s
attention toward him.
To be fair, sometimes the girl has fancied him for herself, without too
much urging of family; and I recall asking more than one diffident
groom, when about to publish banns:—
“Do you really, of yourself, wish to marry this woman?”
“Well, sir—she wants me to marry her.”
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