Life in the forests of the Far East (vol. 1 of 2) — John Shaqi
Life in the forests of the Far East (vol. 1 of 2)St. John, Spenser, Sir
History
Life in the forests of the Far East (vol. 1 of 2)
St. John, Spenser, Sir
Borneo -- Description and travel; Natural history -- Borneo; St. John, Spenser, Sir, 1825-1910 -- Travel -- Borneo
Husbands and wives appear to pass their lives very agreeably together,
which may partly be caused by the facility of divorce. Many men and
women have been married seven or eight times before they find the
partner with whom they desire to spend the rest of their lives. I saw
a young girl of seventeen who had already had three husbands. These
divorces take place at varied times, from a few days after marriage,
to one or two years. However, after the birth of a child, they seldom
seek to separate, and if they do the husband is fined, but not the
wife. The work of the family is divided, though perhaps the female has
most continued labour. The man builds and repairs the houses and boats,
fells all the heavy timber at the farm, brings home the firewood, and
very often nurses the baby. The wives are very domestic, and in their
way carefully attend to household duties; they cook, clean the rice,
feed the pigs and poultry, spin the yarn, weave the cloth, and make the
clothes. A wife is also expected to be polite to visitors, to bring out
her finest mats, and offer the interminable areca nut to her guests.
As the wife works hard, she is generally very strong and capable of
taking her own part. She is very jealous of her husband, much more so
than he is of her. If he be found flirting with another woman, the wife
may inflict a severe thrashing on her, but only with sticks, while if
the offending woman have a husband, he may do the same to the man. To
escape these domestic broils, he generally starts off into the jungle,
and pretends to or really does go head-hunting.
The causes of divorce are innumerable, but incompatibility of temper
is perhaps the most common; when they are tired of each other they
do not say so, but put the fault upon an unfavourable omen or a bad
dream, either of which is allowed to be a legitimate cause of divorce.
Should they, however, be still fond of each other, the sacrifice of
a pig will effectually prevent any misfortune happening to them from
neglecting to separate. Partners often divorce from pique, or from a
petty quarrel, and are then allowed to come together again without any
fresh marriage ceremony. Among the Balau Dayaks, it is necessary for
the offended husband to send a ring to his wife, before the marriage
can be considered as finally dissolved, without which, should they
marry again, they would be liable to be punished for infidelity.
I may add, that as the wife does an equal share of work with her
husband, at a divorce she is entitled to half the wealth created by
their mutual labours.
_Burials._--Among the Sea Dayaks, corpses are usually buried;
although, should a man express a wish to share the privilege of the
priests and be, like them, exposed on a raised platform, the relations
are bound to comply with this request.
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