Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
If it is asked, after all this, “who can console? how is it possible to
please and soothe the sufferer?” I answer, that nothing is
easier--nothing is more common--nothing more natural to simple-minded
people. Never creature had more title than I to speak confidently of
this, from experience which melts my heart day by day. “Speaking the
truth in love,” is the way. One who does this cannot but be an angel of
consolation. Everything but truth becomes loathed in a sick-room. The
restless can repose on nothing but this: the sharpened intellectual
appetite can be satisfied with nothing less substantial; the susceptible
spiritual taste can be gratified with nothing less genuine, noble, and
fair.
Then the question arises, what sort of truth? Why, that which is
appropriate to the one who administers. To each a separate gift may be
appointed. Only let all avoid every shadow of falsehood. Let the nurse
avow that the medicine is nauseous. Let the physician declare that the
treatment will be painful. Let sister, or brother, or friend, tell me
that I must never look to be well. When the time approaches that I am to
die, let me be told that I am to die, and when. If I encroach
thoughtlessly on the time or strength of those about me, let me be
reminded; if selfishly, let me be remonstrated with. Thus to speak the
truth in love is in the power of all. Higher service is a talent in the
hands of those who have a genius for sympathy--a genius less rare, thank
God! than other kinds.
The archangel of consolation is the friend who, at a fitting moment,
reminds me of my high calling. Not the clergyman, making his stated
visit for the purpose; not the zealous watcher for souls, who fears for
mine on the ground of difference of doctrine; not the meddler, who takes
charge of my spiritual relations whether I will or no: none such are, by
virtue of these offices, effectual consolers. But if the friend of my
brighter days--with whom I have travelled, sung, danced, consulted about
my work, enjoyed books and society--the friend, now far off, busy in
robust health of body and spirit, sends me a missive which says, “You
languish--you are sick at heart. But put this sickness from your heart,
and your pains under your feet. You have known before that there is a
divine joy in endurance. Prove it now. Lift up your head amidst your
lot, and wait the issue--not submissively, but heroically. Live out your
season, not wistfully looking out for hope, or shrinking from fear: but
serenely and immoveably (because in full understanding with God),
ENDURE;” if such an appeal comes, and at any hour (for there is no hour
of sickness with which it is not congenial), what an influx of life does
it bring! What a heavenly day, week, year, succeeds! How the crippled
spirit leaps up at the miraculous touch, and springs on its way,
praising God in his very temple! And again, when a thoughtful,
conscientious spirit, guided by an analytical intellect, utters from a
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