Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
distance, not as an appeal, but as in soliloquy--“With an eternity
before us, it cannot matter much, if we would but consider it, whether
we are laid aside for such or such a length of time; whether we can be
busy for others at this moment, or must wait so many months or years:
and as for ourselves, how can we tell but that we shall find the
experience we are gaining worth any cost of suffering?” When such a
thought comes under my eye, as if I overheard some spirit in the
night-wind communing with itself, I feel a strong and kindly hand take
my heart and steep it in patience. Again, a kind visitor, eloquent by
using few words or none on matters nearest at heart, takes down from my
shelves a Fenelon or other quietist, and with silent finger points to
the saying, inexhaustible in truth, that it is what we _are_ that
matters--not what we _do_; and here, in one moment, do I find a
boundless career opened to me within the four walls of my room. Again--a
tender spirit, anxious under responsibility, says “If you could but
fully feel, as you will one day feel, the privilege of having your life
and lot settled for you--your spirit free, your mind at leisure--no
hurry, no conflicts nor misgivings about duty--you would easily conceive
that there are some who would gladly exchange with you, and pour into
your lap willingly all the good things that you seem to be without. I
dare say we are very philosophical for you about your sufferings; but
where I do sympathise with you, is in regard to this clearness and
settledness of your life’s duty and affairs.” To this again, my whole
being cries “amen!” Here are a few of the heavenly messages which have
come to me through human hearts. When below these are ranged the
innumerable ministrations of help, of smiles and tears, of solid
comforts and beguiling luxuries, it does indeed seem impossible that I
should be in any degree dubious or hard to please in the contemplation
and reception of human sympathy. What I have said of its most perfect
forms, I have said from my own knowledge.
* * * * *
Under this head of sympathy occurs the important practical
consideration, what should be the arrangements of a permanent invalid,
in regard to companionship?
In most cases, this is no matter of choice, but a point settled by
domestic circumstances; where it is not, however, I cannot but wish that
more consideration was given to the comfort of being alone in illness.
This is so far from being understood, that, though the cases are
numerous of sufferers who prefer, and earnestly endeavour to procure
solitude, they are, if not resisted, wondered at, and humoured for a
supposed peculiarity, rather than seen to be reasonable; whereas, if
they are listened to as the best judges of their own comforts, it may be
found that they have reason on their side.
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