Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
There is yet a worse direction taken by this sensitiveness--both morally
and in experience worse. Though our observation of life encourages hope,
on the whole, to a boundless extent, both as to affairs and to human
character, it teaches some truths about individual characters which are
almost too much for our weakened condition. It may be absurd--it may be
wrong--to be more afflicted about the faults and failings of the best
and most beloved people, than about the vices and gross follies of a
lower order of men; but such affliction is, to us, quite inevitable. It
is not wholly irrational; for it is a melancholy sight to witness the
encroachment of any bad habit of mind in those who should be outgrowing
such bad habits, instead of being mastered by them. But we know it to be
the common order of things that every man, even the best, carries about
with him through life some fault or failing (the shadowy side of his
brightest quality, if nothing worse), and that it is the rarest thing in
the world to see any strong tendency overcome after the age of
resolution, the youthful season of moral heroism, is past: yet, knowing
this, it is not the less painful to witness it, with the clearness and
strength with which the spectacle offers itself to us, on our post of
observation. While working in the world, side by side with those whose
doings we now contemplate, we were willing to be deceived in each
particular instance; willing to expect that the judgment and action of
those we loved and clung to would, in each case, be accordant with their
best gifts and graces; and, however often disappointed, we made
allowance for the known frailty, and inconsistently hoped it would be
better next time. We now see too clearly to be deceived. With the
discernment of love, and the power of leisure, we can accurately
calculate the allowance to be made--we can precisely measure the
obliquity beforehand--and save ourselves at least from disappointment.
But there is no solace in this. There is more pain in the proof of the
permanent character of faults (permanence including inevitable growth),
than in perpetual new evidence of their existence; more sorrow in our
prophetic power now than in our credulous weakness of old. The accurate
readers of human character may be admired and envied for their
infallible knowledge of how men will think and act; but, if they have a
true heart-love for those whom they watch, they cannot much enjoy their
power. If they have not love, neither can they be happy; so that it
requires a penetrative knowledge indeed, into the ways of God as well as
man, for such skill to be reconcileable with peace and with our human
affections. It is a burdensome knowledge for us to wield, in our
weakened condition, and one which it requires an ever-strengthening
faith to convert into a nourisher of love.
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