failure; with a failure the more painful, that it could never anticipate
or explain it. Possibly he was absorbed in an austere self-conscious
excellence; it may never have occurred to him that a lady might prefer
the trivial detail of daily happiness.
Milton’s own view of the matter he has explained to us in his book on
divorce; and it is a very odd one. His complaint was that his wife would
not talk. What he wished in marriage was an ‘intimate and speaking
help;’ he encountered a ‘mute and spiritless mate.’ One of his principal
incitements to the ‘pious necessity of divorcing,’ was an unusual
deficiency in household conversation. A certain loquacity in their
wives has been the complaint of various eminent men; but his domestic
affliction was a different one. The ‘ready and reviving associate,’ whom
he had hoped to have found, appeared to be a ‘co-inhabiting mischief,’
who was sullen, and perhaps seemed bored and tired. And at times he is
disposed to cast the blame of his misfortune on the uninstructive nature
of youthful virtue. The ‘soberest and best-governed men,’ he says, are
least practised in such affairs, are not very well aware that ‘the
bashful muteness’ of a young lady ‘may oft-times hide the unliveliness
and natural sloth which is really unfit for conversation;’ and are rather
in too great haste to light the nuptial torch: whereas those ‘who have
lived most loosely, by reason of their bold accustoming, prove most
successful in their matches; because their wild affections, unsettling
at will, have been as so many divorces to teach them experience.’ And
he rather wishes to infer that the virtuous man should, in case of
mischance, have his resource of divorce likewise.
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