American essays; Literature -- History and criticism
The great depressor and destroyer of happiness is death; but from this
blow, too, a healthful nature recovers. The broken and crushed plant
rises again. The scar remains, but in the tissue beneath runs the same
old blood.
It is undoubtedly true, however, that as time wears on, life becomes
of a soberer hue. We are young but once, and need not wish to be young
more than once. There is the happiness of youth, there is the happiness
of manhood, there is the happiness of old age,--each period wearing a
hue peculiar to itself. One of the illusions of life, however, which it
is hard to shake off, is the fancying we were happier in the past than
we are in the present. The past has such power to hallow and heighten
effects! In the distance the course we have traveled looks smooth and
inviting. The present moment is always the lowest point in the circle;
it is that part of the wheel which touches the ground. Those days in
the past that so haunt our memory and that seem invested with a charm
and a significance that is unknown to the present,--how shall we teach
ourselves that it is all a trick of the imagination, the result of the
medium through which they are seen, and that they, too, were once the
present, and were as prosy and commonplace as the moment that now is?
It is equally a mistake to suppose we shall be happier to-morrow or
next day than we are to-day. When the future comes it will then be the
present, no longer a matter of imagination, but of actual experience.
This prosy, care-burdened self will be there, and the rainbow tints
will still be in the distance.
The man who is hampered and constrained by the circumstances of his
life, thinks his happiness would be greatly augmented by greater
freedom, if he could go here or there, do this or that. But the
chances are that such would not be the case. For instance, when I see
a man going up and down the country looking for a place to settle, to
build himself a home, and when I think of my own experience in that
direction, I say, happy is the man whom circumstances take by the
collar and set down without any choice on his part, in a particular
place, and say to him, “There, abide there, and earn thy bread there.”
He is a free man then, paradoxical as it may seem,--free to make the
most of his opportunities without regret. He is not the victim of
his own whims or follies. He is not forever tormenting himself with
the notion that he has made a mistake, that if he had gone here or
there, he would have been happier. Now he accepts the inevitable and
makes the most of it. He goes to work with the more heart because he
has no choice. He wastes no time in regrets, he makes no comparisons
that disturb him, but devotes all his strength to getting all the
satisfaction out of life that is possible.
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