Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
Many women are blindly prejudiced on this question as, indeed, I myself
once was. The reason of such mistake is plain. This breaking down or
lessening of the differences between the two sexes may be, and is,
possible. By means of education and the action of habit a child may be
impressed with characteristics normally foreign to its sex, qualities
and tendencies are thus developed which ordinarily appear only in a
child of the opposite sex. I would refer the reader back to the early
section of this book for examples, most curious and suggestive, of such
complete transposition of the female and male characters.[103] Things are
not quite so obviously plain in the human world, but they are not less
fateful, less significant.
We touch here the real weakness in the position of the modern girl: the
profound distrust that she has of herself. I do not mean, of course,
intellectually or as a worker, but a distrust of herself as Woman. I
believe it results directly from educational influences. All our effort
is directed to repress from the consciousness of the girl the realities
of her own sexual nature; and what we do is to hinder her deepest
instincts so that often they fail in finding a healthy expression.
In our schools the educational system is founded on the needs of boys
and not on the needs of girls. I regard this as a great crime. For one
thing, the development of the girl is more obscure and difficult than
the development of the boy; in her sex-life there are finer balances,
which opens up the way to greater evils. There is every possibility of
morbid disturbance from any mistakes in the training. The girl has more
that she needs to learn to establish her health and sexual happiness
than has the boy; the pubescent period lasts longer with her and is more
unsettling; while the greatest difficulty of all, perhaps, arises from
the fact that her conduct is more ruled by deep unconscious instincts.
Every girl lives a hidden life of her own, and it is within this shrine
of her individuality that the primitive and fierce instincts of her sex
struggle to find expression; and though always unacknowledged and often,
indeed, unrecognised, alike by the girl herself as well as by her elders,
it is these instincts that direct her growth and are the determining
influence of her life, far more important than the actions directed by
her conscious self, which is occupied in learning lessons, in play, and
all the outward interests of the daily life.
And it is this deeper ego that suffers from our educational system and
the elaborate ingenuity with which the facts of life are hidden and
glossed over. Girls in our schools, and also in our homes, are trained
to become secretive about themselves, treating their special sexual
functions as a mystery and a shame. Truth-telling is inculcated in
all matters except sex, and here there is an unceasing evasion, which
prepares disharmonies at the very dawn of sexual consciousness.
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