Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
I shall be told that this is not true. But I am writing of what I know.
Menstruation is a perfectly natural function and every girl should
be taught so to regard it. But at its start it does exercise a very
disturbing effect on the whole system and character. And the folly that
pretends that in these early years special care is not required at the
monthly periods cannot be too strongly condemned. For the harm is deeper
and further reaching than the physical hurt, though certainly in our
folly we are making invalids of the future mothers of the race. Harm
in many cases is done to the after sex expression; harm which probably
is never recognised, and about which the ordinary parent and teacher
are densely ignorant and optimistic. How little do we consider the
consequences of our acts? I say there is no limit and no end to the evil
that we are permitting. And the most fearful thing about it is that it
all seems so wantonly needless.
The always difficult passage of the girl into the woman is alarming only
to the girl who knows nothing about herself and her sexual life. Just
as far as she understands does recoil and resentment and shame become
needless. Rightly taught, she will learn to regard her special function,
not as something to be hidden and ignored, but as the sign of the changes
that now are taking place in her body—healthy natural changes that will
fit her one day for love and wifehood and motherhood. Then, indeed, her
shame and her aversion will be converted into pride. Understanding, she
will have a fitting reverence for herself. She will now know why she is
under certain restrictions, and has at the times of her monthly periods
to refrain from overwork and all strain, and to give up some pleasures
and excitements; she will do this gladly in order that her development
into womanhood may be without pain, healthy and complete.
I believe firmly that this change in our attitude to menstruation—a
change that will emphasise its importance to health and its connection
with fit motherhood—a change that must start at the beginning of the
girl’s conscious sexual life, is absolutely necessary to the development
of a higher motherhood. At least, if it does not come, I can have no
hope at all. You cannot gather fruit from a tree that is unhealthy at
its root. And you cannot have glad motherhood while you start out by
despising the function most sacredly connected with motherhood. We must
understand this. Until we do understand it, and then act in the practical
way that will cause us to change our teaching to all young girls, we
shall find women in ever-increasing numbers turning away from motherhood,
and wasting in external things the realities of love and life.
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