Motherhood and the Relationships of the SexesHartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Philosophy
Motherhood and the Relationships of the Sexes
Hartley, C. Gasquoine (Catherine Gasquoine)
Mothers; Sex; Women -- Social and moral questions
Let me state at once that I am very far indeed from forgetting this great
host of enforced celibate women. I have spoken more than once in my book
about them, and I am not now concerned with their position. What I want
is to save the future. Many girls and women to-day are finding their work
and the fresh excitements of independence sufficient to gladden life.
They do not claim pity; yet this satisfaction that women are feeling is
the danger that threatens the future. It is just because these women,
whose desires will be fixed on work and away from motherhood, must be
here among us, in every place, especially in our schools and in our
factories—everywhere in contact with youth—that I am pleading with all
the power that I have for a quite changed training for the young girls
of the coming generation of women. I fear greatly the influence that I
believe must grow up if industrial values of what is good in life are
unchecked, and the desire of women is turned more from motherhood and the
life that matters to the outside details of existence.
Life must be re-shaped, and the first step is the perception of an idea.
We want belief, for life must have a structure—the scaffolding on which
we may build. And each individual woman among us may not be trusted to
make her own structure—to convey and carry whatever it may be that she
desires. Such selfishness makes any permanent building impossible. That
is why in this generation we have lost our ideal.
The previous age fixed its attention on the reform of injustice in
the outward relations of men and women, on the regulation of capital
and labour, on the equality of the sexes and the improvement of the
conditions of life—efforts which culminated naturally in socialism. My
work is one dealing essentially with an attitude towards life. I would
protest against the want of respect for the ultimate emotional aspects
of life, the love of man for woman and of woman for her child—a want
of respect which makes it impossible to tell a young girl openly the
reason why she must not over-exert herself at the time of her monthly
periods. I confess to little patience with this effort to escape sex.
Everything connected with birth and maternity has to be hidden and
mentioned only in whispers. We have forced the attention of girls away
from motherhood, fixing their desires on work and independence. Obedient
and inexperienced, they have followed our guiding. We have taught them to
regard the physical attraction which they ought to feel towards men as
_not nice_, thereby associating in their young minds all sexual feelings
without distinction as _not nice_. We have left them ignorant that sex
feelings may be good or bad according to their associations. Harmful
emotional repression has been inevitable, with a result in the after
years of distaste for motherhood and passionate marriage. We have made
love unclean and separated it from their lives. And, where love is not,
all else is barren.
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