Let us take some illustrations. I have a friend, a high-minded man,
who has taken part in arduous and dangerous enterprises of great
public importance and is almost unbelievably kind in all his private
relations. This man has a wife who is a dipsomaniac, who has become
imbecile, and has to be kept in an institution. She cannot divorce him
because she is imbecile; he cannot divorce her because she affords
him no ground for divorce. He does not consider himself morally bound
to her and is therefore, from a conventional point of view, a wicked
man. On the other hand a man who is perpetually drunk, who kicks his
wife when she is pregnant, and begets ten imbecile children, is not
generally regarded as particularly wicked. A business man who is
generous to all his employees but falls in love with his stenographer
is wicked; another who bullies his employees but is faithful to his
wife is virtuous. This attitude is rank superstition, and it is high
time that it was got rid of.
Sexual morality, freed from superstition, is a simple matter. Fraud and
deceit, assault, seduction of persons under age, are proper matters for
the criminal law. Relations between adults who are free agents are a
private matter, and should not be interfered with either by the law or
by public opinion, because no outsider can know whether they are good
or bad. When children are involved the state becomes interested to the
extent of seeing that they are properly educated and cared for, and it
ought to insure that the father does his duty by them in the way of
maintenance. But neither the state nor public opinion ought to insist
on the parents living together if they are incompatible; the spectacle
of parents’ quarrels is far worse for children than the separation of
the parents could possibly be.
The ideal to be aimed at is not life-long monogamy enforced by legal
or social penalties. The ideal to be aimed at is that all sexual
intercourse should spring from the free impulse of both parties, based
upon mutual inclination and nothing else. At present a woman who sells
herself successively to different men is branded as a prostitute,
whereas a woman who sells herself for life to one rich man whom she
does not love becomes a respected society leader. The one is exactly
as bad as the other. The individual should not be condemned in either
case; but the institutions producing the individual’s action should be
condemned equally in both cases. The cramping of love by institutions
is one of the major evils of the world. Every person who allows himself
to think that an adulterer must be wicked adds his stone to the prison
in which the source of poetry and beauty and life is incarcerated by
“priests in black gowns.”
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
Reviews
Reviews
No reviews yet
Be the first to share your thoughts on this work.
Join the Discussion
Join the discussion
Sign in to leave a comment or review.
Sign InorCreate an account