Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
Let us offer a few definite practical counsels to a parent who wishes
to deal seriously with a bad habit. _First._--Let us remember that this
bad habit has made its record in the brain. _Second._--There is one
way only of obliterating such record; the absolute cessation of the
habit for a considerable space of time, say, some six or eight weeks.
_Third._--During this interval new growth, new cell connections, are
somehow or other taking place, and the physical seat of the evil is
undergoing a natural healing. _Fourth._--But the only way to secure
this pause is to introduce some new habit as attractive to the child
as is the wrong habit you set yourself to cure. _Fifth._--As the bad
habit usually arises from the defect of some quality in the child it
should not be difficult for the parent who knows his child’s character
to introduce the contrary good habit. _Sixth._--Take a moment of happy
confidence between parent and child; introduce, by tale or example,
the stimulating idea; get the child’s will with you. _Seventh._--Do
not tell him to do the new thing, but quietly and cheerfully _see that
he does it_ on all possible occasions, for weeks if need be, all the
time stimulating the new idea, until it takes great hold of the child’s
imagination. _Eighth._--Watch most carefully against any recurrence of
the bad habit. _Ninth._--Should the old fault recur, do not condone it.
Let the punishment, chiefly the sense of your estrangement, be acutely
felt. Let the child feel the shame of not only having done wrong, but
of having done the wrong when it was perfectly easy to avoid the wrong
and do the right. Above all “watch unto prayer” and teach your child
dependence upon divine aid in this warfare of the spirit; but also, the
absolute necessity for his own efforts.
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