Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
M. Adolf Monod claims that the child must owe to his mother a second
birth--the first into the natural, the second into the spiritual life
of the intelligence and moral sense. Had he not been writing of women
and for women, no doubt he would have affirmed that the long travail
of this second birth must be undergone equally by both parents. Do we
ask how he arrives at this rather startling theory? He observes that
great men have great mothers; mothers, that is, blest with an infinite
capacity for taking pains with their work of bringing up children.
He likens this labour to a second bearing which launches the child
into a higher life; and as this higher life is a more blessed life,
he contends that every child has a right to this birth into completer
being _at the hands of his parents_. Did his conclusions rest solely
upon the deductive methods he pursues, we might afford to let them
pass, and trouble ourselves very little about this second birth, which
parents may, and ofttimes do, withhold from their natural offspring.
We, too, could bring forward our contrary instances of good parents
with bad sons, and indifferent parents with earnest children; and,
pat to our lips, would come the _Cui bono?_ which absolves us from
endeavour.
Be a good mother to your son because great men have good mothers, is
inspiring, stimulating; but is not to be received as the final word.
For an appeal of irresistible urgency, we look to natural science with
her inductive methods; though we are still waiting her last word,
what she has already said is law and gospel for the believing parent.
The parable of Pandora’s box is true to-day; and a woman may in her
heedlessness let fly upon her offspring a thousand ills. But is there
not also “a glass of blessings standing by,” into which parents may
dip, and bring forth for their children health and vigour, justice and
mercy, truth and beauty?
“Surely,” it may be objected, “every good and perfect gift comes
from God above, and the human parent sins presumptuously who thinks
to bestow gifts divine.” Now this lingering superstition has no part
nor lot with true religion, but, on the contrary, brings upon it the
scandal of many an ill-ordered home and ill-regulated family. When
we perceive that God uses men and women, parents above all others,
as vehicles for the transmission of His gifts, and that it is in the
keeping of His law He is honoured--more than in the attitude of the
courtier waiting for exceptional favours--then we shall take the
trouble to comprehend the law, written not only upon tables of stone
and rolls of parchment, but upon the fleshly tablets of the living
organisms of the children; and, understanding the law, we shall see
with thanksgiving and enlargement of heart in what _natural_ ways God
does indeed show mercy unto thousands of them that love Him and keep
His commandments.
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