Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
“Edward Waverley’s powers of apprehension were so quick as almost to
resemble intuition, and the chief care of his preceptor was to prevent
him, as a sportsman would phrase it, from overrunning his game; that
is, from acquiring his knowledge in a slight, flimsy, and inadequate
manner. And here the instructor had to combat another propensity too
often united with brilliancy of fancy and vivacity of talent--the
indolence, namely, which can only be stirred by some strong motive
of gratification, and which renounces study as soon as curiosity is
gratified, the pleasure of conquering the first difficulties exhausted,
and the novelty of pursuit at an end.” And the story goes on to show,
without laborious pointing of the moral, how _Waverley_ by name was
_wavering_ by nature, was ever the sport of circumstances because he
had not learned in youth to direct his course. He blunders into many
(most interesting) misadventures because he had failed to get, through
his studies, the alertness of mind and the self-restraint which should
make a man of him. Many pleasant things befall him, but not one of
them, unless we except Rose Bradwardine’s love--and when did woman
study justice in the bestowal of her favours?--not one did he earn
by his own wit or prowess; each advantage and success which came to
him was the earnings of another man. The elder Waverley had not only
fortune but force of character to make friends, so we are not made sad
for the amiable young man for whom we must needs feel affection; he
does nothing to carve out a way for himself, and he does everything to
his own hindrance out of pure want of the power of self-direction, but
his uncle has fortune and friends, and all ends well. For the sake, no
doubt, of young persons less happily situated, and of parents who are
not able to play the part of bountiful Providence to sons and daughters
whom they have failed to fit for the conduct of their own lives, the
great novelist takes care to point out that Edward Waverley’s personal
failure in life was the fault of his education. His abilities were even
brilliant, but “I ought” had waited upon “I like” from his earliest
days, and he had never learned to make himself do the thing he would.
Now it is this sort of “bringing under” that parents are apt to leave
to the schoolmaster. They do not give their children the discipline
which results in self-compelling power, and by-and-by, when they
make over the task to another, the time for training in the art of
self-mastery has gone by, and a fine character is spoiled through
indolence and wilfulness.
But why will it not do to leave it to the schoolmaster to make a
child “sit up”? It is natural for a child to be left free as a bird
in matters of no moral significance. We would not let him tell lies,
but if he hate his lessons, that may be Nature’s way of showing he had
better let them alone.
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