Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
Now, to begin with, discipline does not mean a birch-rod, nor a corner,
nor a slipper, nor bed, nor any such last resort of the feeble. The
sooner we cease to believe in merely penal suffering as part of the
Divine plan, the sooner will a spasmodic resort to the birch-rod die
out in families. We do not say the rod is never useful; we do say it
should never be necessary. The fact is, many of us do not believe in
education, except as it means the acquirement of a certain amount of
knowledge; but education which shall deal curatively and methodically
with every flaw in character does not enter into our scheme of things
possible. Now, no less than this is what we mean when we say, Education
is a Discipline. Where parents fail, the poor soul has one further
chance in the discipline of life; but we must remember that, while it
is the nature of the child to submit to discipline, it is the nature
of the undisciplined man to run his head in passionate wilfulness
against the circumstances that are for his training; so that the parent
who wilfully chooses to leave his child to be “broken in” by the
schoolmaster or by life leaves him to a fight in which all the odds are
against him. The physique, the temper, the disposition, the career,
the affections, the aspirations of a man are all, more or less, the
outcome of the discipline his parents have brought him under, or of the
lawlessness they have allowed. What is discipline? Look at the word;
there is no hint of punishment in it. A disciple is a follower, and
discipline is the state of the follower, the learner, imitator. Mothers
and fathers do not well to forget that their children are, by the very
order of Nature, their disciples. Now no man sets himself up for a
following of disciples who does not wish to indoctrinate these with
certain principles, maxims, rules of life. So should the parent have at
heart notions of life and duty which he labours without pause to instil
into his children.
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