Parents and childrenMason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Philosophy
Parents and children
Mason, Charlotte M. (Charlotte Maria)
Child rearing; Education -- Parent participation
A favourite dream of socialism is--or was until the idea of
collectivism obtained--that each State of Europe should be divided into
an infinite number of small self-contained communes. Now, it sometimes
happens that the thing we desire is already realised, had we eyes to
see. The family is, practically, a commune. In the family the undivided
property is enjoyed by all the members in common, and, in the family
there is equality of social condition, with diversity of duties. In
lands where patriarchal practices still obtain, the family merges into
the tribe, and the head of the family is the chief of the tribe--a very
absolute sovereign indeed. In our own country, families are usually
small, parents and their immediate offspring, with the attendants and
belongings which naturally gather to a household, and, let it not be
forgotten, _form part of the family_. The smallness of the family tends
to obscure its character, and we see no force in the phrase at the head
of this chapter; we do not perceive that, if the unit of the nation
is the natural commune, the family, then is the family the social
microcosm, pledged to carry on within itself all the functions of the
State, with the delicacy, precision, and fulness of detail proper to
work done on a small scale.
It by no means follows from this communistic view of the family that
the domestic policy should be a policy of isolation; on the contrary,
it is not too much to say, that a nation is civilised in proportion
as it is able to establish close and friendly relations with other
nations, and that, not with one or two, but with many; and, conversely,
that a nation is barbarous in proportion to its isolation; and does not
a family decline in intelligence and virtue when from generation to
generation it “keeps itself to itself”?
Again, it is probable that a nation is healthy in proportion as it
has its own proper outlets, its colonies and dependencies, which it
is ever solicitous to include in the national life. So of the nation
in miniature, the family; the struggling families at ‘the back,’ the
orphanage, the mission, the necessitous of our acquaintance, are they
not for the sustenance of the family in the higher life?
But it is not enough that the family commune maintain neighbourly
relations with other such communes, and towards the stranger within
the gates. The family is the unit of the nation; and the nation is
an organic whole, a living body, built up, like the natural body, of
an infinite number of living organisms. It is only as it contributes
its quota towards the national life that the life of the family is
complete. Public interests must be shared, public work taken up, the
public welfare cherished--in a word, its integrity with the nation
must be preserved, or the family ceases to be part of a living whole,
and becomes positively injurious, as decayed tissue in the animal
organism.
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