The constant reiteration of these words constitute a species of
suggestion, and peace will steal gradually into our souls and will
permit us to think quietly, without the risk of becoming entangled in
disordered fancies, or, what is far worse, falling a prey to vain and
unavailing regrets.
Those who doubt the efficacy of this proceeding can be readily convinced
by proving to them the tremendous power of mere words.
Certain of these electrify us. Such words as patriotism, revolt, blood,
always produce in us an emotion of enthusiasm or disgust.
Others again are productive of color, and one must admit that the
constant repetition of an assurance ultimately leads to the creation of
the condition that it pictures to us.
But to make the assertion to oneself, "I am composed," is not all that
is necessary. One must prove to oneself that one is not glossing over
the truth.
The readiest means of accomplishing this, which is open to every one who
has any regular interests, is to mentally review the words and the
actions of the day, and to pass judgment upon them from the point of
view of the quality one is striving to attain.
DAILY SELF-EXAMINATION
One should convince oneself as soon as possible of the truth of the fact
that sincerity toward oneself is a large factor in attaining that
firmness of judgment that must be cultivated by the man who is in search
of poise.
In order to reach this condition nothing is more easy than to pass in
mental review, every evening, the events that have marked the day that
has passed.
In a word, one should strive to relive it, honestly confessing to
oneself all the mistakes that have crept into it.
Every unfortunate speech should be recalled. One should formulate fresh
replies, that lack of poise did not permit us to make at the time, so
that under similar circumstances we may not be again caught at a
disadvantage.
The witty name of "doorstep repartee" has been given to these answers
which one makes as afterthoughts, with the idea of expressing the
embarrassment of the man who can find no arguments until he finds
himself beyond the reach of his opponents. It is after one has gone out,
when one is on the doorstep, that one suddenly recognizes what one ought
to have said, and finds the phrases that one should have used, the exact
retort that one might have hurled at one's antagonist.
The man who has acquired poise should still accustom himself to practise
this force of mental gymnastics when making his daily self-examination.
It will strengthen him for future contests by teaching him just how to
conduct himself.
He must be always on his guard against one of the obsessions that too
often afflict the timid--the mania for extremes.
The nature of a timid person is essentially artificial. His character is
unequal.
He yearns for perfection, yet it is painful for him to meet it in
others. He suffers also because he has failed to acquire it himself.
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