Even in the professions and trades of a distinctly masculine character
which woman has recently invaded, we meet constantly the mock-modern
person, who under a veneer of modernity, still harbors all the
superstitions, and exhibits all the mannerisms of the "old fashioned"
woman.
Being old-fashioned in love, as in every other activity of life,
presents a great temptation to the lazy, the unintelligent, the
neurotic.
It is an excuse for all sorts of unethical forms of conduct, for
failure or inactivity, and yet carries with itself a deceptive air of
mock refinement and distinction.
The woman who boasts of being old fashioned can misbehave and retain
for years her husband's or her environment's confidence in her purity.
Being old fashioned, she is assumed by all to be a little "simple" and
"silly" at times, but unlikely to ever cross certain boundaries. At the
same time, she can pass cruel judgments on all the trangressors who
have not been as shrewd or lucky as she.
As a basis for a discussion of the extent to which love will affect the
modern woman and modern woman affect love, I shall select the picture
drawn by George Bernard Shaw in McCall's Magazine for October 1920 of
the woman of the new generation.
"=What Women Had to Do Recently=," Shaw writes, "was not to repudiate
their femininity but to assert its social value, not to ape masculinity
but to demonstrate its insufficiency. This was the point of my play
Candida in which it is made quite plain that the husband's masculine
career would go to pieces without the wife's feminine activity.
"As refinement was supposed to be proper to women and roughness proper
to men fifty years ago, the great increase in companionship between
men and women during that period was bound either to refine the
men or roughen the women. It has done both. The feminine refinement
which was only silliness disguised by affection has gone; and women
are hardier and healthier, and the stock sizes of their clothes are
larger in consequence. The masculine vigor that was only boorishness,
slovenliness and neglect of person and clothes has fled before feminine
criticism.
"=But the Generalisation That Women are Refined and Men Rough by
Nature= is a superficial one, holding good only when, as often happens,
the man's occupation is rougher than the woman's. The natural woman
cannot afford to be as fastidious as the natural man; if she shirked
all the unpleasantness that he escapes, the race would perish. As a
matter of fact, there are coarse women and coarse men, refined women
and refined men; and there is no reason to suppose that the proportions
differ in the two sexes.
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