Life would be much simpler if love among human beings were similar to
love among the animals. At mating time, any animal of any species feels
automatically attracted to any animal of the opposite sex belonging to
the same species. Age, appearance or relationship seem of no account
in the animal world. The love activities begin at a definite time of
the year, have as their obvious and exclusive purpose the reproduction
of the species and, after attaining their goal, end very early in the
summer of the same year. An exception may be made for a few wild and
domesticated animals which have several mating seasons and for a few
survivals of the prehistoric fauna, like the elephants, among which the
family group seems more permanent than among more "recent" biological
specimens.
Nor do love activities among the animals result in lasting disturbances
of their psychological life. In certain varieties of fish the male
never even sees the female whose eggs he fecundates. While we observe
at times duels to the death between two males for the possession of
one female (elks or moose), animal life seems to suffer few lasting
complications from the fact of such conflicts, which, like animal love,
are purely seasonal.
A greater regularity of the food supply which has intensified the sex
urge among human beings and removed its seasonal character, and the
progress of civilization which, for economic reasons, has placed upon
the union of male and female a thousand restrictions, has complicated
terribly what was merely among animals a periodic biological activity.
Restrictions, however, never bring about the complete suppression of
biological cravings and merely compel them to remain repressed for
varying periods of time. Repressed cravings, denied a direct normal
outlet, create for themselves indirect, morbid outlets.
We are little more than civilized animals who have been trained not to
reveal their primal cravings at certain forbidden times and places.
The cravings are there, struggling for expression and denial of their
reality does not suffice to make them unreal. It only invests them with
morbidity and abnormality.
Much of the fearsome mystery which surrounds sex is due to the fact
that we have forgotten our origin. We have set up a goal which, like
all goals worth striving for, is far ahead of the human procession and
somewhere between the earth and the stars. But that goal should not
cause us to forget our starting point.
It happens too often that "what we should be" blinds us to "what we
really are." Hence our surprise, our puzzled expression, our painful
disappointment, when one of us reveals himself suddenly as he is
instead of as he should be. Hence our absurd statutes which punish the
laggards on the road of evolution instead of helping them along. Hence
our fears in the presence of a mystery we have made mysterious, of a
danger we have made dangerous and which we make more terrifying yet by
burying our heads in the sand.
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