X. Quando ergo circa viduitatis statum bene affectam esse constat, tunc commendanda vita spiritualis, non religiosa, cujus incommoda potius proponenda, et exaggeranda, sed qualis fuit Paulæ et Eustochii, &c. prospiciatque confessarius ut quantocyus voto castitatis saltem ad biennium vel triennium emisso, omnem aditum ad secundas nuptias excludat, quo tempore omnis conversatio cum sexu impari, et recreationes etiam cum consanguineis et affinibus prohibendæ, titulo majoris conjunctionis cum Deo. Ecclesiastici autem à quibus vidua visitabitur, aut quos visitabit, si omnes excludi nequeant, tamen tales sint qui ex nostrorum commendatione admittantur, vel à nostrorum nutu dependeant. XI. Huc usque ubi progressum fuerit, paulatim ad bona opera præsertim eleemosynas inducenda erit vidua, quæ tamen nulla ratione præstabit sine sui patris spiritualis directione; cum plurimum intersit, ut cum discretione talentum in lucrum spirituale detur, et eleemosynæ male collocatæ sint sæpe causa vel fomentum peccatorum, et sic simplicem tantum fructum et meritum causent. CHAP. VI. How to conciliate rich widows to the society. I. For this work, fathers advanced in age, should be chosen, of lively complexion and agreeable conversation, by whom these widows are to be visited, and as soon as they show any affection towards the society, then let the works and merits of the society be exhibited to them, which if they receive, and begin to visit our churches, look out for them a confessor, by whom they may be weekly directed, especially in order to constancy in their widowed state, by enumerating and praising its advantages and happiness; and let them pledge their faith and stake themselves as hostages that eternal reward can be acquired by such a course, and that it is the most effectual method to escape the pains of purgatory. II. Also let the confessor provide that they should be occupied in embellishing some house, as a chapel, or oratory, in which they can employ themselves in meditations and spiritual exercises, so that they may the more easily be called away from the conversation and visits of suitors; and although they may have a chaplain, let _ours_ not abstain from the celebration of mass, and especially from exhortations properly made; and study to keep the chapel under their control. III. Things which relate to the government of the house should be cautiously and gradually changed, so that regard be had to person, place, affection, and devotion. IV. Let those domestics especially, be removed, but by little and little, who do not plainly communicate and correspond with the society; and let such be recommended, if any should be substituted, who depend on us, and are content to do so; for so we can be made acquainted with all things which are done in families.