Books and reading -- Great Britain; Conduct of life; Social problems; Women
It happens that I have practically some connexion with schools for
different classes of youth; and I receive many letters from parents
respecting the education of their children. In the mass of these letters
I am always struck by the precedence which the idea of a “position in
life” takes above all other thoughts in the parents’—more especially in
the mothers’—minds. “The education befitting such and such a _station in
life_”—this is the phrase, this the object, always. They never seek, as
far as I can make out, an education good in itself; even the conception
of abstract rightness in training rarely seems reached by the writers.
But, an education “which shall keep a good coat on my son’s back;—which
shall enable him to ring with confidence the visitors’ bell at
double-belled doors; which shall result ultimately in establishment of a
double-belled door to his own house;—in a word, which shall lead to
advancement in life;—_this_ we pray for on bent knees—and this is _all_
we pray for.” It never seems to occur to the parents that there may be
an education which, in itself, _is_ advancement in Life;—that any other
than that may perhaps be advancement in Death; and that this essential
education might be more easily got, or given, than they fancy, if they
set about it in the right way; while it is for no price, and by no
favour, to be got, if they set about it in the wrong.
Indeed, among the ideas most prevalent and effective in the mind of this
busiest of countries, I suppose the first—at least that which is
confessed with the greatest frankness, and put forward as the fittest
stimulus to youthful exertion—is this of “Advancement in life.” May I
ask you to consider with me, what this idea practically includes, and
what it should include?
Practically, then, at present, “advancement in life” means, becoming
conspicuous in life; obtaining a position which shall be acknowledged by
others to be respectable or honourable. We do not understand by this
advancement, in general, the mere making of money, but the being known to
have made it; not the accomplishment of any great aim, but the being seen
to have accomplished it. In a word, we mean the gratification of our
thirst for applause. That thirst, if the last infirmity of noble minds,
is also the first infirmity of weak ones; and, on the whole, the
strongest impulsive influence of average humanity: the greatest efforts
of the race have always been traceable to the love of praise, as its
greatest catastrophes to the love of pleasure.
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