Social Life in Old Virginia Before the WarPage, Thomas Nelson
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Social Life in Old Virginia Before the War
Page, Thomas Nelson
Virginia -- Social life and customs
Hospitality had become a recognized race characteristic, and was
practised as a matter of course. It was universal; it was spontaneous.
It was one of the distinguishing features of the civilization; as much
a part of the social life as any other of the domestic relations. Its
generosity secured it a distinctive title. The exactions it entailed
were engrossing. Its exercise occupied much of the time, and exhausted
much of the means. The constant intercourse of the neighborhood,
with its perpetual round of dinners, teas, and entertainments, was
supplemented by visits of friends and relatives from other sections,
who came with their families, their equipages, and personal servants,
to spend a month or two, or as long a time as they pleased. A dinner
invitation was not so designated. It was, with more exactitude, termed
“spending the day.” On Sundays every one invited every one else from
church, and there would be long lines of carriages passing in at the
open gates.
It is a mystery how the house ever held the visitors. Only the mistress
knew. Her resources were enormous. The rooms, with their low ceilings,
were wide, and had a holding capacity which was simply astounding. The
walls seemed to be made of india-rubber, so great was their stretching
power. No one who came, whether friend or stranger, was ever turned
away. If the beds were full--as when were they not!--pallets were put
down on the floor in the parlor or the garret for the younger members
of the family, sometimes even the passages being utilized. Frequently
at Christmas the master and mistress were compelled to resort to the
same refuge.
It was this intercourse, following the intermarriage and class feeling
of the old families, which made Virginians clannish, and caused a
single distinguishable common strain of blood, however distant, to be
recognized and counted as kinship.
Perhaps this universal entertainment might not now be considered
elegant. Let us see.
It was based upon a sentiment as pure and unselfish as can animate the
human mind,--upon kindness. It was easy, generous, and refined. The
manners of entertainers and entertained alike were gentle, cordial,
simple, with, to strangers, a slight trace of stateliness. The best the
hosts had was given; no more was required.
The conversation was surprising; it was of the crops, the roads,
history, literature, politics, mutual friends, including the entire
field of neighborhood matters, related not as gossip, but as affairs of
common interest, which every one knew or was expected and entitled to
know.
Among the ladies, the fashions came in, of course, embracing
particularly “patterns.”
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