Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions. — John Shaqi
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
And if Pride and Self-conceit keep a Man who has some good Qualities,
and is not so bad as the most of his Neighbours, from growing better, it
for certain confirms and hardens the Wicked in his Crimes, it sets him
up for a Wit, that is, according to modern Acceptation, one who rallies
all that is serious, a Contemner of the Priests first, and then of the
Deity Himself. For Penitence and Self-condemnation are what his
Haughtiness cannot bear, and since his Crimes have brought upon him the
Reproaches of his own Mind, since he will not take the regular Way to be
rid of them, which is, by Humbling himself, and making his Peace with
Heaven, he bids Defiance to it, and wou’d, if he could, believe there is
no future State, no After-retribution, because he has too just Reason to
fear it.
If therefore it be a Woman’s hard Fate to meet with a disagreeable
Temper, and of all others, the Haughty, Imperious, and Self-conceited
are the most so, she is as unhappy as any Thing in this World can make
her. For when a Wife’s Temper does not please, if she makes her Husband
uneasy, he can find Entertainments Abroad; he has a hundred Ways of
relieving himself; but neither Prudence nor Duty will allow a Woman to
fly out: her Business and Entertainment are at home; and tho’ he makes
it ever so uneasy to her, she must be content, and make her best on’t.
She who elects a Monarch for Life, who gives him an Authority, she
cannot recall, however he misapply it, who puts her Fortune and Person
entirely in his Power, nay, even the very Desires of her Heart,
according to some learned Casuists, so as that it is not lawful to Will
or Desire any Thing but what he approves and allows, had need be very
sure that she does not make a Fool her Head, nor a Vicious Man her Guide
and Pattern; she had best stay till she can meet with one who has the
Government of his own Passions, and has duly regulated his own Desires,
since he is to have such an absolute Power over hers. But he who doats
on a Face, he who makes Money his Idol, he who is charm’d with vain and
empty Wit, gives no such Evidence, either of Wisdom or Goodness, that a
Woman of any tolerable Sense shou’d care to venture her self to his
Conduct.
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