Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.Astell, Mary
Philosophy
Some Reflections Upon Marriage.: With additions.
Astell, Mary
Marriage; Women -- Social conditions
But according to the rate that young Women are Educated, according to
the Way their Time is spent, they are destin’d to Folly and
Impertinence, to say no worse, and, which is yet more inhuman, they are
blam’d for that ill Conduct they are not suffer’d to avoid, and
reproach’d for those Faults they are in a Manner forc’d into; so that if
Heaven has bestowed any Sense on them, no other Use is made of it, than
to leave them without Excuse. So much, and no more, of the World is
shewn them, than serves to weaken and corrupt their Minds, to give them
wrong Notions, and busy them in mean Pursuits; to disturb, not to
regulate their Passions; to make them timorous and dependant, and, in a
Word, fit for nothing else but to act a Farce for the Diversion of their
Governors.
Even Men themselves improve no otherwise than according to the Aim they
take, and the End they propose; and he whose Designs are but little and
mean, will be the same himself. Tho’ Ambition, as ’tis usually
understood, is a foolish, not to say a base and pitiful Vice, yet the
Aspirings of the Soul after true Glory are so much its Nature, that it
seems to have forgot it self, and to degenerate, if it can forbear; and
perhaps the great Secret of Education lies in affecting the Soul with a
lively Sense of what is truly its Perfection, and exciting the most
ardent Desires after it.
But, alas! what poor Woman is ever taught that she should have a higher
Design than to get her a Husband? Heaven will fall in of course; and if
she makes but an Obedient and Dutiful Wife, she cannot miss of it. A
Husband indeed is thought by both Sexes so very valuable, that scarce a
Man who can keep himself clean and make a Bow, but thinks he is good
enough to pretend to any Woman; no matter for the Difference of Birth or
Fortune, a Husband is such a Wonder-working Name as to make an Equality,
or something more, whenever it is obtain’d.
And indeed, were there no other Proof of Masculine Wisdom, and what a
much greater Portion of Ingenuity falls to the Men than to the Women’s
Share, the Address, the Artifice, and Management of an humble Servant
were a sufficient Demonstration. What good Conduct does he shew! what
Patience exercise! what Subtilty leave untry’d! what Concealment of his
Faults! what Parade of his Vertues! what Government of his Passions! How
deep is his Policy in laying his Designs at so great a Distance, and
working them up by such little Accidents! How indefatigable is his
Industry, and how constant his Watchfulness not to slip any Opportunity
that may in the least contribute to his Design! What a handsome Set of
Disguises and Pretences is he always furnish’d with! How conceal’d does
he lie! how little pretend, till he is sure that his Plot will take! And
at the same Time that he nourishes the Hope of being Lord and Master,
appears with all the Modesty and Submission of an humble and
unpretending Admirer!
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